Tuesday’s Love Jones – Be a Cheap Date For Your Husband!


When you think of “dating,” you usually think of fun filled long talks, throbbing hearts, and bouquets of flowers. But who says all that has to stop after engagement—or after marriage, for that matter? 

The media paints life after marriage as boring, but we married people know better. That spark absolutely does not have to go out once you say “I Do!” 

Want to keep your romance fiery and fresh after the wedding cake has been eaten and the thank-you notes delivered? Here are some great ways to date your spouse!

1. Make Time… No Matter What 

The first step to dating your spouse is commitment. After all, commitment is what marriage is about! So commit to do something fun with each other regularly. 

2. Have Good Talks 

Communication, along with sex and money, is one of the top three reasons that marriages go south. Creating space for communication is important! 

Dates are the perfect opportunity for you and your spouse to connect. Spend time talking so you can keep acquainted and stay in touch with each other’s lives!

3. Make Errands into Dates 

Doing errands isn’t ideal for regular date nights, but it is great for days when you don’t have time to just relax together, and it’s also cheap.

4. Be OK with Cheap 

A common misconception is that quality romance has to be expensive. Let’s throw out that idea right now. Sure, you may not be able to afford bouquets of roses and diamond jewelry, but handmade notes and picnic dinners can be just as sweet! 

If you’re OK with dating cheap and don’t judge the quality of the experience by the cost, you can have a ton of fun doing things like going to the bookstore or exploring a public park.

5. Be Sexy 

You don’t want to be tempting before you get married and then let the flame go out once the wedding license is singed. This is the time to ramp it up and make your dates sizzle! 

Husband and I went to go see Once Upon a Time … in Hollywood starring Leonardo DiCaprio, Brad Pitt, Margot Robbie. Great movie, but after the flick…we passed by this cut little setting area that seemed perfect for taking photos.

We had such a fun little 30 minutes taking these pics! We laughed, talked and just acted like goofy kids.

6. Do Overnight Dates 

Book a cute little house a few hours away and spend a couple days away from the stresses of life!

There are so many great ways to do overnight dates. If you want to rekindle the romance of your early married days, why not go on a second honeymoon?

Dating your spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage strong and healthy! Maintain communication, spend time together, and keep your romance alive. There are few things in life that are more important than your relationship with your spouse, so take the time to let him or her know just how much you care. 

Tuesday’s Love Jones – Fighting with Respect!


 

When it comes to relationships, conflict is inevitable. But it doesn’t have to be emotionally distressing or callous. Couples can disagree and, yes, even fight while still showing compassion and respect for each other. Relationships that can’t be saved are relationships where the flame has completely gone out, or it wasn’t there in the first place

Frequent heated and hurtful conflict is certainly not healthy or sustainable, either. You can have conflicts with your partner in a constructive way, and it may actually bring you closer together.

If you want to navigate conflict with your partner in a healthier and more productive way, keep these things in mind during your next argument:

~ Schedule a time for conflict

~ Call a timeout if you or your partner needs one

During an argument, it’s common for one or both partners to enter “fight, flight or freeze” mode, humans enter one of these modes when they think they may be in danger. “Fight or flight” refers to when stress hormones activate to give people more energy to either fight the stressor or run from the situation. And “freeze” mode occurs when a person simply does not react at all, in hopes that the stressor loses interest in the fight.

~ Make requests instead of complaints

Fights often start with the same two words: “You always.” Rather than asking their partner to do something they’d like them to do, like cleaning up around the house, people jump to make accusations.

~ Listen, and ask your partner for clarification

~ Learn the right way to apologize to your partner

Just as people have different love languages, we have different apology languages, too. It’s not enough to recognize that you’ve hurt your loved one and you owe them an apology: You have to know them enough to tailor your apology to their needs.

In closing, remember that when couples argue, we are not enemies. Even when we do not agree we are still on the same team!

Tuesday’s Love Jones – Types of Orgasms All Grown Women Should Be Having!


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We all ready know that female sexuality is a bit more complex than men’s, but it is so complex, a lot of couples out there have experimented with sexual games, or people decide to explore their bodies to get to know themselves better

  1. The clitoris: We call it the success locket

This is the most well-known sexual part of the woman, and it’s the easiest orgasm to achieve because it is the most easily accessed. It can easily be caressed. Women love being stimulated in this area, and men already know the path to driving their partner crazy.

  1. The vaginal orgasm

This is also another well-known one, and for some more reserved couples, it’s the only one. It’s also one of the most difficult orgasm types to achieve. Simple penetration does not stimulate the famous G spot.

In order to achieve this orgasm, you need to try hard and concentrate. Even though it’s complex, we recommend that you don’t toss it aside, because it can be extremely satisfying.

To do this you will need good communication is important with your partner. There are different positions that can stimulate this area: standing, kneeling, sitting, from behind or from the side—go until you find the perfect position.

  1. The mixed orgasm – The Winner

This is one of the most intense of all female orgasm types, and it is achieved by stimulating the clitoris along with reaching vaginal stimulation. It’s also known as a complete orgasm. Here the woman feels her entire body tremble, and is sensitive to all sensations.

There are a lot of women that don’t realize that, in addition to the G spot, the clitoris has ramifications around the vulva and inside the vagina, which is why you can stimulate both of them at the same time.

This can be achieved by stimulating both areas simultaneously. And since it’s not easily done the first few times around, you might need to do a basic body analysis. As the woman, we always recommend that you help. Try positions where you’re on top, and switch between different types of movements until finding the perfect one. Just this…you can do it!!!

4. Exercising at the gym can give you an orgasm

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According to a new study, women don’t need a man, or vibrators, or even direct sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm. The phenomenon that is female sexual pleasure can be induced by exercise.

PawiiOrgasmYou might be the type of woman that goes to the gym every day, or perhaps you climbed some steep stairs and felt a certain kind of tickle. If so, you have experienced sexual pleasure caused by exercise.

These orgasm types won’t produce in you even half of the sensations that you’ll feel in the previously mentioned ones. Some women have developed this way of feeling pleasure, making it more and more pleasurable and intense; abs, bicycling, aerobics or running. You won’t lose anything by trying it. Although, it is pretty gross to think of woman orgasming all over our local gym!!!!

In Closing…

Reaching an orgasm might not be the easiest thing in the world for women, primarily if you don’t know your own body. Get to know your body and practice, practice, practice!!!

TLj – Act Like You Like Yourself!


Late last week, I came across a post on facebook about a girl/fan that got several imagessurgeries to look like Angelina Jolie.  This post saddened my heart, because this girl’s lack of self-esteem has to be on the highest low to even attempt to do this.

This made me come up with a few ways people can try to feel a little more confident and true to thyself. Confidence is one of those things that some people are born with, and some people aren’t. A lot of us find ourselves struggling to feel confident on a daily basis, and it’s a really tough battle to fight, so how can you feel good about yourself when there are certain things you just don’t like about yourself?

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Analyze Your Media Inspiration: First step to help personal confidence is to stop looking at the women on the TV shows/video games/magazines/films you enjoy as inspiration. More than not, media folks have all had work done and or have airbrushed everything they have posted.  We cannot take pics from celebs seriously. Instead, find fashion bloggers or models who have similar physical traits to you.

A person in whom is conscious about amplifying their great attributes. Find someone who you can look at and say ‘they are attractive’ despite them being fat or having bad skin or bad teeth or whatever. And try to look at someone like that every day. Heck, you can use me for inspiration if ya like.  I have been blogging for years, have gone up and down in my weight and more UP than not. However, I know that my confidence in myself is strong and is not based on my size or how big I think my nose is!!!

Check me out on The Confidence Bargain of the Week.

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Get Real: Confidence shouldn’t be based solely upon your looks. It is important that you try to focus on your other good qualities to build up confidence. I’m sure you have many. Just like attractiveness shouldn’t be the main source of your confidence. You need to like yourself if you want others to like you as well. If losing weight will do that for you then maybe that is where you should start, but liking yourself whether big or small would be an even healthier place to get to.

Act Like You Like Yourself: A lot of people who believe they are unattractive stop putting any effort at all into how they look. For example, many women will never do their hair, makeup, nails, etc. Or they’ll stay in sweatpants or baggy gym shorts all the time instead of trying to wear something that is cute and flattering. Just because you’re insert perceived problem here doesn’t mean you can’t dress up or treat yourself to nice things.

In Closing….

IMG_4854Kat’s Call:  You have to find things that make YOU feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, just know that you are perfect just the way you are and no one else has to think that but you! The opinion that you have of yourself is the only one that matters, So, dress well, groom yourself and look in the mirror and KNOW that you are just a awesome and beautiful as you wanna be!!!