Tuesday’s love Jones – Devotion or Too Much!!!

Every year Jackie and Doug Christie renew their vows, and this year for their 20th anniversary! The Christies let the Basketball Wives LA cameras film their 20th marriage renewal, which was featured on the season finale of the VH1 reality show. The surprise wedding had viewers shed a few #RealBlackLove tears as the beautiful moment played out on Sunday night’s episode.

Is this type of devotion each year ideal or too much?


Tuesday’s Love Jones – Observing Passion!

Passion in the relationships makes love sizzle and cause you to levitate above your problems.  Our brains stimulate us more when we are in love or impassioned? Life seems glorious. Our problems don’t matter so much.  Impassioned relationships can work very well too, but there can be conflict and problems.

Inviting More Passion into Your Life

PawiiBlog on Passion

It always helps if each person in a relationship is passionate about his/her own life, and has a good relationship with himself/herself. If you are passionate about your life, every day starts with your energizing smile. You can’t wait to get out of bed! The other people in your life feel the energy and they want to be around you.

If you are passionate about your career, you are going to bring a lot of positive energy into your relationships. That can have a powerful influence for the good on the relationships that matter most. When each person is energized by his/her work, and they feel a sense of fulfillment because they are doing something they love and believe in, the relationship is going to percolate, baby.

If you are not happy in your work, the simple solution is to get happy! Don’t accept the same old status quo of your life. Find more fulfilling work – something about which you can truly be passionate. Something you feel you were meant to do or believe in immensely.

Is Romance in Play?

PawiiBlogs on Passion

In passionate relationships, people sometimes want lust or enchantment, not passion. They want passionate relationships to be characterized by that giddy state of affairs that often occurs during the first two or three years of a new relationship.

Mature relationships go through phases and changes, and the couple moves beyond the enchantment phase and settles into a quieter, perhaps more peaceful way of being together. It can be even more beautiful than the excitement of the enchantment phase, if the couple can stop and appreciate the warm glow that comes with knowing and loving each other ever so much more deeply.

Mature relationships can be like fine wine. The difference is subtle, but oh so good. Take time to find and nurture those subtleties.

Kat’s Tips – Give your passionate relationships a check‑up.

  1. Are the two of you equally committed to it?
  2. Are you equally empowered?
  3. Does each partner have an equal voice?
  4. Is your marriage set up mostly for the convenience and comfort of one over the other?
  5. Does one spouse have more responsibility and work to do than the other?
  6. Is the relationship fair?
  7. Are the partners equally supportive and helpful?
  8. Are you experiencing conflict on a spiritual level?
  9. Is one person doing most of the giving?

By addressing any concerns in these areas, you will improve your relationship substantially an if you find it difficult to use these steps, relationship coaching may be able to help. We can talk about ways coaching can directly benefit your relationships and make you happier and stronger. Relationships that reach their highest potential give life great meaning, happiness, and joy.

Contact me…

About a week before this post we asked our MEN ON REEL STAFF to give us one way they’d bring passion into their relationship and our longtime friend, Emmanuel Brown of the Seeing Growth Network came up with “poetry” as a way to show his woman how she completely captivates his attention.

A special thanks E! This Poetry is invigorating…you have a lucky girl on your hands!!! To find out all about Mr. Brown, visit him at www.seeinggrowth.net


By Emmanuel Brown

Let me observe you, from up close and afar
Gazing through your nights at a chocolate star
If you notice, please respond with that smile
No need to say a word, your action cover the miles
Maybe you didn’t think that you could melt through my coldness
But you definitely do, with that strength and that boldness
I couldn’t say a word when you took that powerful stance
As a humbled man, all I could do is wonder and glance
You knew what you did, you know what you do
Stepping into my game and you were wearing only you
So I put you in position and I even played the center
My house, my domain, so I’m the only one that could enter
But still your game remained just out of my reach
And I found myself being coached and learning to teach
Is that why do what you do from way over yonder?
Is it to leave me in cold sweats with many thoughts to ponder?
Is that smile just a smile or is there something in between?
Are you Seeing Growth in me, or Seeing something a little lean?
Are you hearing what I’m hearing? Are you feeling what I’m feeling?
Do you notice my shivers and shakes while I’m rocking and reeling?
Are you looking in my eyes? Can you see behind my shade?
Were you able to notice the small mess that I made?
Will you remain over there? Will you return every stare?
Will you hold me incarcerated with that only you can give glare?
Are those powers just for me? Are those hours just for me?
Was is always your plan to make those showers just for me?
Do you really realize just how far you have gotten?
Do you really believe that you could ever be forgotten?
Do you understand my thoughts? Do you understand that dream?
Do you know you caused that sweat? Do you understand that steam?
Although you are beyond belief, do you know you make every curve true?
Before drain myself further….

PLEASE!!!!!! Let Me Observe You!

Emmanuel Brown of SeeingGrowth

Emmanuel Brown of SeeingGrowth.net

Maxi, Maxi, Maxi – Tuesday’s Love Jones!

Maxi writes in telling me that she’s started a new job and was instantly attracted to a colleague. She says, over the past 3 months her and this college have had to work closely together and that the sexual tension is crazy.


Maxi shares that she can’t even remember the last time that she’s felt such intense physical attraction with anyone…including with her husband. Jerry (the co-worker), is married also and as the days go by the tension is rising. His flirting is incessantly and if I’m truthful, she says, she  loves every minute of it. He is tall and incredibly attractive. So far, she handles this outwardly by being totally professional all the time, but on the inside she says she is  always tense, full of energy and daydream of how it would feel to be romantically involved with him.

What should I do?

~ Max

In my professional opinion, there are some questions that I need you to ask yourself way before I tell you that you need to get a grip!

1). Do you love your husband?

2). How important is your marriage?

3). What are you missing in your life that you are entertaining this tomfoolery?

Here’s the off the record deal, Maxi! First off, this Jerry guy most likely flirts with every new female employee in the office and you may even notice that the longer your work there.

You, my friend, just so happen to be the new meat in the office.

office-romance-640x431The one thing that this Jerry has already shown you is that he does not respect marriage and you most defiantly should never fall for a guy with such standards. Another thing, he flirts with you because you allow him to. Most men know how to seek out the women that will give them the time of day.

And, as far as the “what should you do question” …well, that is solely up to you. If you think losing or harming your marriage is worth it; by all means carry on. But, if there is a mere chance that you honor your husband, you should begin letting this Jerry know that you are not interested in 100% of your actions.

I’d say that you should use this as fuel to seek what may be wrong in your marriage and work on how to feel that same passion with your own man.  Let this be an eye opening experience and not one that will keep you blind to the true harm this will bring.

If I may play devil’s advocate? Say you and this Jerry do have an office fling. What do you think will come next? Do you think this Jerry will become the love of your life and you two will ride into some sunset? Nah, more than likely, all it will do is cause you to feel guilty, used and uncomfortable every day after the fling at work.

Now, I never like to answer a question with another question, but Maxi…what WILL you do?


Have a prosperous Tuesday, Maxi!

~ Kat 🙂

Tuesday’s Love Jones – Who’s THIS Guy?

Brandy sings on subway and gets ignored


First! In today’s news, Brandy broke into stage song on and NY Subway and NOBODY even noticed! You can watch the video here, but its really embarrassing from beginning to end. VIDEO but on another note….EVERYONE is talking about her today and any press is good for business, right?

Now back to Tuesday’s Love Jone July 17, 2015

Who’s THIS Guy? by Katrina Gurl

Isn’t that the question we ask to ourselves often when our partner does something you’d never thought he or she’s do when you Who’s THIS Guy? by Katrina Gurlfirst got married?

When you get married to a particular person, you have altered your relationship to that person and there are different expectations in marriage than when you were dating, for example, committing to a monogamous relationship and having children and raising them typically become priorities,  which require different skills and maturity than just dating. It would be weird if you didn’t change after you got married.

We often hear “You are not the person I married!” An accusation that things have changed for the worse and it makes us uncomfortable to recognize that our partner has changed and that we have changed right along with him.

But what can we do before things get out of hand?

Well, first things first…please, do not take your relationship for granted. Look at your partner with fresh eyes and try to grow with who they are today.  However, this is not to say to go along with anything disrespectful or anything that will compromise your morals.

All this means to it to literally find the positivity in the changes you may be seeing. Celebrate your new best friend and instead say: “Hello stranger. Fancy meeting you here, Love.”

Who’s THIS Guy? by Katrina GurlIf I may speak for myself, when my hubs and I were married we were ages 20 and 22, so needless to say, we were the very effervescent high school sweethearts. What a laugh that is, because there was nothing sweet about the beginning of our marriage. Anyway, long story short. I personally had a hard time separating the fact that my husband was no longer the kid I’d went to school with and into the new role he was taking on as a husband and father.

In our school days, he was so sweet and gave me everything I wanted even back then, but the changes he was making (to me) came off a bit harsh and insensitive at times. I’d often look at him and think, “Who’s this guy? And what the hell have I signed up for!”

Boy! If I’d only known then what I know now!

Looking back, I see that the man was just trying to be a good husband, father and provider and he totally had my best interest in mind, but his delivery is what made me feel as though he was drastically changing.

Of course we adjusted and continued to grow together and here are some things you can do to have a smoother relationship when it seems that your mate is changing…

  • Learn one another’s love languageWho’s THIS Guy? by Katrina Gurl

We tend to like to give love in the same way we like to receive love, but what may work for you may not even work for your mate, so try to deeply understand why makes your partner feel truly loved.

  • Meeting each other’s needs before your own

This literally means to think of your partner first in everything you do. I may seem mundane, but it you really love your mate it will come natural.

  • Do things together often

Have fun together and find as many ways as possible to do so. Your husband or wife is supposed to be the perfect representation of what a best friend should be and you should always find ways to make that happen.

I hope this post helps someone out there to have a HAPPY TUESDAY!!!

Hugs 🙂

~ Katrina