Tuesday’s Love Jones – Fighting with Respect!


 

When it comes to relationships, conflict is inevitable. But it doesn’t have to be emotionally distressing or callous. Couples can disagree and, yes, even fight while still showing compassion and respect for each other. Relationships that can’t be saved are relationships where the flame has completely gone out, or it wasn’t there in the first place

Frequent heated and hurtful conflict is certainly not healthy or sustainable, either. You can have conflicts with your partner in a constructive way, and it may actually bring you closer together.

If you want to navigate conflict with your partner in a healthier and more productive way, keep these things in mind during your next argument:

~ Schedule a time for conflict

~ Call a timeout if you or your partner needs one

During an argument, it’s common for one or both partners to enter “fight, flight or freeze” mode, humans enter one of these modes when they think they may be in danger. “Fight or flight” refers to when stress hormones activate to give people more energy to either fight the stressor or run from the situation. And “freeze” mode occurs when a person simply does not react at all, in hopes that the stressor loses interest in the fight.

~ Make requests instead of complaints

Fights often start with the same two words: “You always.” Rather than asking their partner to do something they’d like them to do, like cleaning up around the house, people jump to make accusations.

~ Listen, and ask your partner for clarification

~ Learn the right way to apologize to your partner

Just as people have different love languages, we have different apology languages, too. It’s not enough to recognize that you’ve hurt your loved one and you owe them an apology: You have to know them enough to tailor your apology to their needs.

In closing, remember that when couples argue, we are not enemies. Even when we do not agree we are still on the same team!

TLj – Act Like You Like Yourself!


Late last week, I came across a post on facebook about a girl/fan that got several imagessurgeries to look like Angelina Jolie.  This post saddened my heart, because this girl’s lack of self-esteem has to be on the highest low to even attempt to do this.

This made me come up with a few ways people can try to feel a little more confident and true to thyself. Confidence is one of those things that some people are born with, and some people aren’t. A lot of us find ourselves struggling to feel confident on a daily basis, and it’s a really tough battle to fight, so how can you feel good about yourself when there are certain things you just don’t like about yourself?

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Analyze Your Media Inspiration: First step to help personal confidence is to stop looking at the women on the TV shows/video games/magazines/films you enjoy as inspiration. More than not, media folks have all had work done and or have airbrushed everything they have posted.  We cannot take pics from celebs seriously. Instead, find fashion bloggers or models who have similar physical traits to you.

A person in whom is conscious about amplifying their great attributes. Find someone who you can look at and say ‘they are attractive’ despite them being fat or having bad skin or bad teeth or whatever. And try to look at someone like that every day. Heck, you can use me for inspiration if ya like.  I have been blogging for years, have gone up and down in my weight and more UP than not. However, I know that my confidence in myself is strong and is not based on my size or how big I think my nose is!!!

Check me out on The Confidence Bargain of the Week.

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Get Real: Confidence shouldn’t be based solely upon your looks. It is important that you try to focus on your other good qualities to build up confidence. I’m sure you have many. Just like attractiveness shouldn’t be the main source of your confidence. You need to like yourself if you want others to like you as well. If losing weight will do that for you then maybe that is where you should start, but liking yourself whether big or small would be an even healthier place to get to.

Act Like You Like Yourself: A lot of people who believe they are unattractive stop putting any effort at all into how they look. For example, many women will never do their hair, makeup, nails, etc. Or they’ll stay in sweatpants or baggy gym shorts all the time instead of trying to wear something that is cute and flattering. Just because you’re insert perceived problem here doesn’t mean you can’t dress up or treat yourself to nice things.

In Closing….

IMG_4854Kat’s Call:  You have to find things that make YOU feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, just know that you are perfect just the way you are and no one else has to think that but you! The opinion that you have of yourself is the only one that matters, So, dress well, groom yourself and look in the mirror and KNOW that you are just a awesome and beautiful as you wanna be!!!

TLj – Rapturous Bonds!


“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown

By now I’m sure that most of of us KNOW that there are no such things as perfect relationships, but however, there are perfect things we can do to make them feel that way.

Trust

Trust is crucial. Period. No ifs or buts. If you are in the relationship for the long term, you simply cannot afford to have trust issues. There is no room for doubt. You have to trust with a full heart that your partner loves you.

Quality Time

Quality time is essential. Do something fun together, do something meaningful, have meaningful conversations, pay attention to each other, and express your love like crazy.

Communication

When you communicate with your loved one, remember that love is the key. Speak from the heart. Have good intentions and be clear. Discuss problems in a loving manner. Practice effective active listening skills; do not interrupt the other person, listen and watch. Be mindful. Remain calm. Be respectful. Be loving.

Small Acts of Kindness

Small acts of kindness have always been a big part of of a good relationship. Small acts are vital. Whether it is a small gift, doing the dishes, or giving a hug, it shows your love and support. Send flowers, send an ecard, or leave a small note on the table. Bake cookies or make breakfast in bed. Give hugs and kisses for no reason other than to show your love.

Express Your Love

Love is always the foundation. It’s nearly obvious, but sometimes so obvious that couples tend to forget about it, and saying “I love you” becomes monotonous. But love is the basis and the reason of your relationship. So express your love through actions, words, and non-verbal communication. Don’t make “I love you” a routine, but instead always, and I do mean always, say it from the heart.

This is Kat’s call and have a rapturous Tuesday!!!

Put A Wedge In It Blogs – Look at this Mitch!


Look at this #Mitch! #Repost @kevinhart4real ・・・Kevin Hart cheated on his pregnant wife just like he did in his first marriage and has finally put out a lame “I’m not perfect apology” video! 


Which this video only comes in lieu of the woman he cheated with trying to extort money from him to keep her mouth shut! 

Humph…!!! When are people gonna realize that being perfect is not what keeps us from CHEATING!!! COMMITMENT is what keeps folks from hurting their partners!!!