Tuesday’s Love Jones – Things for Couples to Remember While Quarantining!


Quarantine Ideas by Katrina Gurl

Since Trump doesn’t know how to run the country and is suggesting that his followers ingest cleaning products as a COVID19 antidote…our best bet is just stick closer to our family and learn new ways to strengthen our relationships withPawii our partner.

Let’s face it, there are a LOT of couples packing with tensions of quarantining in close quarters during this worldwide pandemic. Let’s just jump to the bold stuff, before you have to put a tranquilizer dart in your spouse’s neck for doing that irritating, “thing” again. Just be honest and put your feelings on the table and work them out like adults.

  1. I’m not used to you being home all day!

Like you, your spouse is under all sorts of stress. From working from home to homeschooling to the economy to lack of hand-sanitizer to having to live with you, the struggle is real.

When they mess up, ease up. Try not to get all bent out of shape about the way they deal with the kids, their towels on the floor, their way of managing to slurp through every bite of their cereal. Give them the grace you need now or are going to need soon.

  1. All these years and I never knew you were such a mean person!

Somehow we know exactly how to be kind to stranger during an entire work week, but now that we are at home every day with our loved ones, the knowledge of that has seemed to walk right out the door. You may be surprised how staggering helpful small doses of kindness can be for your relationship.

  1. You’re strange these days!

Some couples have a lot of differences. Every couple has some differences. Some of you are stressed your mate is not stressed enough about the coronavirus. Some of you are stressed because your spouse is too stressed. Some of you hate this time has messed-up your structure, while others are thrilled daily hygiene is optional.

Although it’s frustrating when you re-see the face you promised to love. They may be a LOT to deal with, but, so are you. There’s no better way to draw your mate to you than accepting them, all of them. They need your acceptance now more than ever.pawii2

  1. Try to have fun in this UN-FUN situation

I fully understand the coronavirus is serious. How in the world could we ever forget? The reminders are everywhere. But too much news causes too much stress. Too much stress weakens your immune system.

So, for the sake of doing your part, try to be at least semi-fun. You don’t have to do stand-up, but at least tell some jokes or do something fun around the house. And for all the love of God, if you see your mate TRYING to be kind, try to follow suit.

2020 is turning out to be the strangest year in a long while, but as far as relationships go…let’s make it remarkable memorable.

Below are some creative activities for couples. Some of them are weird, but who knows how long this will last. Things may get desperate!

Have Themed dinner and a movie…

  • Whip up a buttery and then watch Black AF or Dolemite Is My Name or The Big Lebowski.
  • Find a favorite, romantic play online and act it out for the family, or just for yourselves.

Put on a fashion show for each other

  • Do this while cleaning out the closet…try on clothing and show off your sexy off and let him/her decide if you should keep or toss that item.

Explore Instagram Live – Club Quarantine with DJ D- Nice

  • In a coronavirus world, for many folks, Saturday nights might have meant dance parties at clubs all around the country. But as we’re all social distancing, thanks to DJ D-Nice, any person anywhere can be part of one giant dance party at the same time—via Instagram.

Each week Club Quarantine reaches over of 100,000 with live viewers. Guests including Janet Jackson, Justin Timberlake, and John Legend popped in to the “party” throughout the week, but on Saturday the party got lit, as the kids say, with guests including Michelle Obama, Jennifer Lopez, Rihanna, Ellen DeGeneres. Even Democratic presidential candidates Vice President Joe Biden and Senator Bernie Sanders joined in on the fun! And, let’s not forget #SEXYTIME whenever Halle Barry steps in the room as chatroom fam has coined the hashtags #BERRYNICE.

D-Nice spins tracks by artists including Rihanna and Janet Jackson, he shouted out his special guests—even joking that perhaps guest Mark Wahlberg. Many also remarked on the power that music and dance has to change the world.

Tuesday’s Love Jones – The Power of Communication!


Tuesday's Love Jones - Are You Marriage Material?It’s now more common for marriages to fail than it is for them to last a lifetime. But don’t let all the negativity of society and celebrity media change your mind on marital bliss. Your relationship can be healthy, harmonious and joyful. Get the power of proper communication BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!

However, making time to consider key questions will help you and your future spouse head in the right direction:

Here are some crucial questions to ask before you get married:

Are you willing to grow up? Your own maturity level, and that of your spouse, will determine how well you all can work together in marriage and how likely you all will be to stick with your relationship or give up on it. So each of you needs to honestly assess your current spiritual, emotional, social, and financial maturity by reflecting on issues such as how much self-control you each have, how much you respect authority, how much you can say “no” to some activities so you can say “yes” to those that are best for you, how much peace versus drama you have in your relationships with others, how often you keep your promises and follow through on commitments, whether or not you have a job that pays your bills, and whether or not you’re in debt.

Are you “equally yoked”? It’s never God’s will for you to be yoked (spiritually united) in marriage with someone who’s not a Christian, because a person who’s not connected to Jesus can’t head in the same direction as you can. Don’t deceive yourself into thinking that you can pull an unbelieving spouse closer to Jesus; what happens instead in marriages between believers and unbelievers is that the unbelieving spouse pulls the believing spouse further away from Jesus. Realize that you can fall in love with anyone you happen to be attracted to, but that doesn’t mean that you should marry them.

Have you talked about money? Disclose all of your financial information to the person you’re considering marrying, and expect full disclosure from him or her, too. Talk about how each of you plans to earn, spend, save, give, and invest money if you get married, and why. If you discover that one or both of you doesn’t currently have a healthy budget or healthy money management attitudes or habits, get help and make changes before getting married to save yourselves from having to go through tremendous stress afterward.

Will you tell the truth? You and your future spouse must tell each other the whole truth about the romantic relationships that you’ve each had with other people previously, regardless of how wild or mild they were. Share all of the details with each other honestly, listen to each carefully, and give each other mercy as God does if you have each sought His forgiveness for your sins and repented of any unhealthy behaviors.

Have you communicated your expectations? Discuss each of your expectations about married life, such as where you’d live, where you’d go to church, when you’d start trying to have children and how many children you want, and what types of careers and work hours you each hope to have. Since surprising each other after you’re married will cause lots of stress, it’s much better to talk about your expectations beforehand and see if you can reach agreements before committing to married life together.

Are you ready to marry an entire family? Get to know each other’s family backgrounds well, since each of you will carry over the attitudes and behaviors that you learned growing up into the new family that you create together.

Will you give respect? You each must also be willing to respect each other even when you don’t think that the other deserves that respect, because God has made you both and highly values you. By choosing to respect your future spouse when he or she doesn’t deserve it, you can motivate your spouse to change and begin acting in ways that are worthy of respect.

Are you ready to love? Realize that love is an action, not just a feeling. Are you prepared to act in love toward your future spouse, even at times when you don’t like his or her behavior? Some of the ways you’ll need to show your love include listening, protecting, providing, and serving each other, no matter what.

Are you ready to “get naked”? Understand that sexual intimacy within marriage involves far more than just a physical connection; it also calls for a spiritual, emotional, and conversational connection. How do you plan to build the kind of relationship with each other that makes healthy and fulfilling sexual intimacy possible in your future marriage? Discuss that openly and honestly with each other.

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Tuesday’s Love Jones – The Rhythm of Love


The Rhythm of Love by Katrina Gurl
 
We all know that sex can be a tricky subject and sometimes we are not really sure how to set the mood, but the one thing we can always count on in music.  Having a sexy playlist can downplay those initial awkward minutes, as well as serve as a spark to keep the momentum going until the end.
 
Also, here are some things to do to set the mood
  • Light candles for a soft glow, Invest in huge, fluffy pillows for the bedroom.
  • Spritz perfume or cologne on the pillows, Rose petals really are romantic.
  • Invest in high-count silk sheets or comfy cotton ones.
  • If you use a lamp in the bedroom, cover it with a thin scarf to change the hue.
  • Better yet, buy a colored light bulb for sensual ambiance anytime.
  • Massage oils are a good way to relax or simply touch your lover – run your hands over their body.
To help, here  is a list of suggested songs that will ensure you the ultimate “let’s get it on” experience and tell us what are some of yours…Learn more about how music effects us sexually Love, Sex and Rock n Roll
1. “No Bull Shit” — Chris Brown
2. “Baby Boy” — Beyonce’ (feat. Sean Paul)
3. “I Invented Sex” — Trey Songz
4. “Till Your Legs Start Shaking” Sleepy Brown
5. “Ayo Technology” — 50 Cent
6. “Birthday Sex” — Jeremih
7. “Trading Places” — Usher
8. “What’s My Name” — Brian McKnight
9. “I’ll Make Love To You” — Boyz II Men
10. “Groove With You” — The Isley Brothers
11. “Bed” — J. Holiday
12. “Sex With You” — Marques Houston
13. “Your Body is a Wonderland” — John Mayer
14. “Secret” — Maroon 5
15. “Any Time, Any Place” — Janet Jackson
16. “Honey Love” — R Kelly
17. “I Love You” — Faith Evans
18.  “Tonight (Best You Ever Had) ft. Ludacris” — John Legend
19. “Single” — Raheem DeVaughn
20. “So Gone (What My Mind Says)” — Jill Scott ft. Paul Wall
 
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