Tuesday’s Love Jones – Aging Sensually!


If your sex drive has taken a dive recently, you’re not alone: it’s common to go through waves of low libido as we age, buy just because we’re aging does not mean we have to take this lying down (get it? Lying down?) Let’s try out some of these of methods of boosting your sex drive and you’re sure to feel like your old self in no time.

Get Your Vitamin C Fix
Taking in plenty of vitamin C is good for you. What you might not have known, though, is that it’s also great for your sex drive. It turns out stocking up on foods like oranges, kiwi, green peppers, guava, and strawberries can really get you in the mood. Studies show that women who have high intakes tend to have more and sex.

Have a Cup of Coffee
Coffee wakes you up, gives you energy, and boosts your sex drive! Caffeine tends to make you want to get it on and will even give you a better experience once you do. So grab a cup or two tomorrow morning and get it on before work.

Massage Oil
Did you know that applying topically to your nether regions to heat things up?

Drink Some Red Wine
Drinking red wine to help increase your sex drive sounds way too good to be true. But no, you’re not dreaming! Studies found that treating yourself to a moderate intake of the antioxidant-packed beverage could help increase sexual desire, lubrication, and overall sexual function.

Try Fenugreek
You might not know too much about Fenugreek. The medicinal herb is touted as a way to help lower blood sugar levels and increase breast milk production, but research literally found that by taking a daily supplement of the powerful plant could also play a role in increasing sexual arousal and desire.

Serve Up Some Watermelon
Eating watermelon is such a summer treat, but you might want to grab it year-round: Research found the fruit might have Viagra-like effects on the body, giving your libido a solid boost due to the compounds it contains.

 

Make Time for Intimacy
It might feel weird taking the time to schedule in your freaking in the sheets, but in these fast flighting days we need way more playtime in our lives, right? The Mayo Clinic says adding some time for intimacy can get your sex drive back on track. And, get with the times and make that cell phone work for you more by sending a calendar invite to your hubby with some eggplant emojis to give him something to look for.

Drink Pomegranate Juice
Aside from water, there’s one more important beverage to include in your diet—at least in terms of your sex drive: pomegranate juice. According to a recent study in Scotland, just one glass a day not only helped boost participants’ mood and memory, but it also increased the amount of testosterone in their bodies, in turn increasing their libido. And for more ways to boost your testosterone.

Be More Open and Transparent with Your Partner
Sitting down and talking about why your sex drive has taken a hit with your partner might feel uncomfortable, but it’s necessary…especially if you want to get back on track! The Mayo Clinic also says communicating in an open, honest way can help you “maintain a stronger emotional connection, which can lead to better sex.” I always tell the men that come to counseling with their wives – “Honesty can be one of the sexiest things to turn your woman on!”

Doctor Prescribed Clitoral Therapy
Did you know that your doctor could help you increase your sex drive with a simply prescription for a device that costs $250? According to Harvard University, the Eros Clitoral Therapy Device uses a gentle vacuum to increase genital flow to the area — and in clinical trials, women were super impressed: 90% felt more sensation in the area after using it, and 80% had increased sexual satisfaction.

Reading Sexy Lit
Books are the best sex toy. According to a medical sexologist, nothing promotes sexual behavior and satisfaction quite like reading a book. This approach, known as bibliotherapy, has the ability to heal patients through the reading of texts. Sexy texts, in this case.
In addition to the sexual benefits of reading, bibliotherapy also has general psychological perks. Research suggests that actively fantasizing releases chemicals like dopamine and testosterone, which promote happiness.

It’s better than adult films because most women can’t relate to watching a hairless, glistening model with a tiny waist and huge breasts. Writers of erotica generally omit physical details about the characters’ appearances. Instead, they focus on emotional relationships and situations. This makes it easier for female readers to insert themselves in the scenario.

Books are safe the meaningful relationship if you’re trying to repair your libido. Women can’t feel aroused if they are inhibited. Finding that right balance of familiarity and boundaries can be hard to do, but books make it easy. Anyone can pick up a book at their leisure and read it on their own time.

I just so happen to be giving 5 free copies of my own book to the first 5 readers of this blog. All you have to do is fill out the register below for a copy of The Balcony View Revisit by yours truly, Katrina Gurl. This books is filled with short sexy stories that will light your room of fire.

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Tuesday’s Love Jones – A Piggyback Post!


The other day my fellow blogger (Xavier Young) posted an amazing topic that got my attention. The name of the post was “How do women liked to be SPOILED??” It’s a pretty simple question, but depending on the woman you ask, there can be a countless variations of responses. The women that did answer over on his post came up with so many views that helped me to realize the language of love means so many different things to each individual. Feel free to drop by his blog to see all the amazing responses at: LOVE IS CONFUSING!

HERE’S HOW I NEED TO BE SPOILED…

RESPECT: Respect is the most important building block in a relationship. Respect is a pattern of behavior that is found in healthy relationships. You have to give respect in order to get it and each partner deserves it.

HONESTY: To deepen the bond with your partner and stay more connected to each other you need to be totally honest. The more committed you are, the more loving the relationship. For me, honesty is a turn on. When someone is comfortable enough with themselves to be honest, it makes to want to give more of myself to the person I’m with whether that be physically or emotionally.

TRANSPARENTCY: People think that transparency is the same as honesty and here’s how they differ: Transparency is a way of relating to your partner in which you reveal your inner self, your true experience. That means exposing your vulnerabilities and fears, as well as your desires and points of view about whatever issues you’re discussing. Honesty is an individual practice a person chooses to live by.

TRUST: It is trust that allows us to navigate the uncertain and complex world we live in today. With the rise of the internet, mobile phones, email, chat and social media, it is so much easier for people to connect or spend more time others without your partner even knowing. Trust to me is being able to set my watch to what I know my mate will do in certain situations. Without even having a second thought, I want…no I need to know that I can trust my man in my presence or out.

and LUST: In a prior PAWII post, we had come to realize that lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body also an uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite. READ POST HERE

Within the marriage, there isn’t a problem with lust toward our spouses, because we are supposed to feel a strong sexual desire towards them, right?  It’s perfectly normal to lust your spouse during sex, but it is also something that one should practice 24/7 and that’s just another way I need to be spoiled!!!

In closing, I have enjoyed answering the question of my fellow blogger’s amazing post and can’t wait to see what he comes up with next.

 

Tuesday’s Love Jones – Types of Orgasms All Grown Women Should Be Having!


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We all ready know that female sexuality is a bit more complex than men’s, but it is so complex, a lot of couples out there have experimented with sexual games, or people decide to explore their bodies to get to know themselves better

  1. The clitoris: We call it the success locket

This is the most well-known sexual part of the woman, and it’s the easiest orgasm to achieve because it is the most easily accessed. It can easily be caressed. Women love being stimulated in this area, and men already know the path to driving their partner crazy.

  1. The vaginal orgasm

This is also another well-known one, and for some more reserved couples, it’s the only one. It’s also one of the most difficult orgasm types to achieve. Simple penetration does not stimulate the famous G spot.

In order to achieve this orgasm, you need to try hard and concentrate. Even though it’s complex, we recommend that you don’t toss it aside, because it can be extremely satisfying.

To do this you will need good communication is important with your partner. There are different positions that can stimulate this area: standing, kneeling, sitting, from behind or from the side—go until you find the perfect position.

  1. The mixed orgasm – The Winner

This is one of the most intense of all female orgasm types, and it is achieved by stimulating the clitoris along with reaching vaginal stimulation. It’s also known as a complete orgasm. Here the woman feels her entire body tremble, and is sensitive to all sensations.

There are a lot of women that don’t realize that, in addition to the G spot, the clitoris has ramifications around the vulva and inside the vagina, which is why you can stimulate both of them at the same time.

This can be achieved by stimulating both areas simultaneously. And since it’s not easily done the first few times around, you might need to do a basic body analysis. As the woman, we always recommend that you help. Try positions where you’re on top, and switch between different types of movements until finding the perfect one. Just this…you can do it!!!

4. Exercising at the gym can give you an orgasm

Running together.

According to a new study, women don’t need a man, or vibrators, or even direct sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm. The phenomenon that is female sexual pleasure can be induced by exercise.

PawiiOrgasmYou might be the type of woman that goes to the gym every day, or perhaps you climbed some steep stairs and felt a certain kind of tickle. If so, you have experienced sexual pleasure caused by exercise.

These orgasm types won’t produce in you even half of the sensations that you’ll feel in the previously mentioned ones. Some women have developed this way of feeling pleasure, making it more and more pleasurable and intense; abs, bicycling, aerobics or running. You won’t lose anything by trying it. Although, it is pretty gross to think of woman orgasming all over our local gym!!!!

In Closing…

Reaching an orgasm might not be the easiest thing in the world for women, primarily if you don’t know your own body. Get to know your body and practice, practice, practice!!!

TLj – First Comes Lust, then Comes Love!


If you were wondering if it’s truelove, or just lust…here’s how to tell!

Did you know that falling in love actually happens over time, and the journey frompawiiblogs2initial attraction to deep romantic love is a predictable course that depends on many different factors?

Love is an intense feeling of affection toward another person. It’s a profound and caring attraction that forms emotional attachment. On the flip side, lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature that is based on physical attraction. Lust can transform into deep romantic love, but it usually takes time.

Two individuals will transform their lust into love when they get to see the whole individual (their strengths and weaknesses) and get past the “fantasy” level.

pawiiblogs3First Stage of Lust

Lust is the first stage of falling in love. It’s driven by desire. The sex hormones play an important role in this stage. According to experts, this stage may begin immediately and can last up to two years.

What Lust Looks Like in this Stage:

  • You’re focused on the physical appearance of the object of your desire.
  • There is a strong desire to have sex, but not deep emotional conversations.
  • You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
  • You are lovers, but not necessarily friends.

Second Stage of Lust is Attraction

This is the “love-struck” phase. When you spend hours daydreaming about your lover; when you lose sleep or your appetite, you know you’re in this phase. The neurohormones that play an important role in the attraction or infatuation phase are dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin. These are the hormones that send our heart racing, and might actually make us feel like we are going insane.

Finally, Comes Love and Attachment

When a couple has gotten to know themselves beyond the courting phase and they get to see their partner’s “whole” personality, including their strengths and weaknesses, and still choose to love and accept each other for who they are, a neurohormone of love called oxytocin takes over. This is the commitment hormone. It’s released during orgasm and believed to promote bonding when adults are intimate.

Signs of the Truest Love

This type of love is not just an emotion, it’s also a craving. There is a strong emotional craving, the love drive is even stronger than the sex drive.

  • Possessiveness. When you desire only that one person, you know you are in deep romantic love.
  • You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
  • You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
  • You want to honestly listen to each other’s feelings and make each other happy.
  • He or she motivates you to be a better person.
  • You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
  • You can’t stop thinking about that person.

At this stage, instead of a split between love and lust, your new path lies in the balancing of the two: committed love and red hot sex, security and excitement, continuity and novelty, safety and adventure, comfort and passion. The happiest couples are the ones that can maintain a balance between lust and love.

katrina gurl 3Kat’s Call: Enjoy the journey of this amazing discovery relating with someone for whom you lust. If the chemistry is right, it will transform into romantic love! Who knows, you may just be lusting you future husband/wife!!!

Don’t rush it! Allow it to unfold naturally. The more you bring love, honesty, passion and romance into your own self-relationship, the easier it will be to attract someone who shares those same qualities.

You may also want to read: 

RePost Monday – Is Lust Okay?
Lust Among Spouses – Sinful or Not?