Tuesday’s Love Jones – Aging Sensually!


If your sex drive has taken a dive recently, you’re not alone: it’s common to go through waves of low libido as we age, buy just because we’re aging does not mean we have to take this lying down (get it? Lying down?) Let’s try out some of these of methods of boosting your sex drive and you’re sure to feel like your old self in no time.

Get Your Vitamin C Fix
Taking in plenty of vitamin C is good for you. What you might not have known, though, is that it’s also great for your sex drive. It turns out stocking up on foods like oranges, kiwi, green peppers, guava, and strawberries can really get you in the mood. Studies show that women who have high intakes tend to have more and sex.

Have a Cup of Coffee
Coffee wakes you up, gives you energy, and boosts your sex drive! Caffeine tends to make you want to get it on and will even give you a better experience once you do. So grab a cup or two tomorrow morning and get it on before work.

Massage Oil
Did you know that applying topically to your nether regions to heat things up?

Drink Some Red Wine
Drinking red wine to help increase your sex drive sounds way too good to be true. But no, you’re not dreaming! Studies found that treating yourself to a moderate intake of the antioxidant-packed beverage could help increase sexual desire, lubrication, and overall sexual function.

Try Fenugreek
You might not know too much about Fenugreek. The medicinal herb is touted as a way to help lower blood sugar levels and increase breast milk production, but research literally found that by taking a daily supplement of the powerful plant could also play a role in increasing sexual arousal and desire.

Serve Up Some Watermelon
Eating watermelon is such a summer treat, but you might want to grab it year-round: Research found the fruit might have Viagra-like effects on the body, giving your libido a solid boost due to the compounds it contains.

 

Make Time for Intimacy
It might feel weird taking the time to schedule in your freaking in the sheets, but in these fast flighting days we need way more playtime in our lives, right? The Mayo Clinic says adding some time for intimacy can get your sex drive back on track. And, get with the times and make that cell phone work for you more by sending a calendar invite to your hubby with some eggplant emojis to give him something to look for.

Drink Pomegranate Juice
Aside from water, there’s one more important beverage to include in your diet—at least in terms of your sex drive: pomegranate juice. According to a recent study in Scotland, just one glass a day not only helped boost participants’ mood and memory, but it also increased the amount of testosterone in their bodies, in turn increasing their libido. And for more ways to boost your testosterone.

Be More Open and Transparent with Your Partner
Sitting down and talking about why your sex drive has taken a hit with your partner might feel uncomfortable, but it’s necessary…especially if you want to get back on track! The Mayo Clinic also says communicating in an open, honest way can help you “maintain a stronger emotional connection, which can lead to better sex.” I always tell the men that come to counseling with their wives – “Honesty can be one of the sexiest things to turn your woman on!”

Doctor Prescribed Clitoral Therapy
Did you know that your doctor could help you increase your sex drive with a simply prescription for a device that costs $250? According to Harvard University, the Eros Clitoral Therapy Device uses a gentle vacuum to increase genital flow to the area — and in clinical trials, women were super impressed: 90% felt more sensation in the area after using it, and 80% had increased sexual satisfaction.

Reading Sexy Lit
Books are the best sex toy. According to a medical sexologist, nothing promotes sexual behavior and satisfaction quite like reading a book. This approach, known as bibliotherapy, has the ability to heal patients through the reading of texts. Sexy texts, in this case.
In addition to the sexual benefits of reading, bibliotherapy also has general psychological perks. Research suggests that actively fantasizing releases chemicals like dopamine and testosterone, which promote happiness.

It’s better than adult films because most women can’t relate to watching a hairless, glistening model with a tiny waist and huge breasts. Writers of erotica generally omit physical details about the characters’ appearances. Instead, they focus on emotional relationships and situations. This makes it easier for female readers to insert themselves in the scenario.

Books are safe the meaningful relationship if you’re trying to repair your libido. Women can’t feel aroused if they are inhibited. Finding that right balance of familiarity and boundaries can be hard to do, but books make it easy. Anyone can pick up a book at their leisure and read it on their own time.

I just so happen to be giving 5 free copies of my own book to the first 5 readers of this blog. All you have to do is fill out the register below for a copy of The Balcony View Revisit by yours truly, Katrina Gurl. This books is filled with short sexy stories that will light your room of fire.

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TLj – Rapturous Bonds!


“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown

By now I’m sure that most of of us KNOW that there are no such things as perfect relationships, but however, there are perfect things we can do to make them feel that way.

Trust

Trust is crucial. Period. No ifs or buts. If you are in the relationship for the long term, you simply cannot afford to have trust issues. There is no room for doubt. You have to trust with a full heart that your partner loves you.

Quality Time

Quality time is essential. Do something fun together, do something meaningful, have meaningful conversations, pay attention to each other, and express your love like crazy.

Communication

When you communicate with your loved one, remember that love is the key. Speak from the heart. Have good intentions and be clear. Discuss problems in a loving manner. Practice effective active listening skills; do not interrupt the other person, listen and watch. Be mindful. Remain calm. Be respectful. Be loving.

Small Acts of Kindness

Small acts of kindness have always been a big part of of a good relationship. Small acts are vital. Whether it is a small gift, doing the dishes, or giving a hug, it shows your love and support. Send flowers, send an ecard, or leave a small note on the table. Bake cookies or make breakfast in bed. Give hugs and kisses for no reason other than to show your love.

Express Your Love

Love is always the foundation. It’s nearly obvious, but sometimes so obvious that couples tend to forget about it, and saying “I love you” becomes monotonous. But love is the basis and the reason of your relationship. So express your love through actions, words, and non-verbal communication. Don’t make “I love you” a routine, but instead always, and I do mean always, say it from the heart.

This is Kat’s call and have a rapturous Tuesday!!!

Maxi, Maxi, Maxi – Tuesday’s Love Jones!


Maxi writes in telling me that she’s started a new job and was instantly attracted to a colleague. She says, over the past 3 months her and this college have had to work closely together and that the sexual tension is crazy.

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Maxi shares that she can’t even remember the last time that she’s felt such intense physical attraction with anyone…including with her husband. Jerry (the co-worker), is married also and as the days go by the tension is rising. His flirting is incessantly and if I’m truthful, she says, she  loves every minute of it. He is tall and incredibly attractive. So far, she handles this outwardly by being totally professional all the time, but on the inside she says she is  always tense, full of energy and daydream of how it would feel to be romantically involved with him.

What should I do?

~ Max

In my professional opinion, there are some questions that I need you to ask yourself way before I tell you that you need to get a grip!

1). Do you love your husband?

2). How important is your marriage?

3). What are you missing in your life that you are entertaining this tomfoolery?

Here’s the off the record deal, Maxi! First off, this Jerry guy most likely flirts with every new female employee in the office and you may even notice that the longer your work there.

You, my friend, just so happen to be the new meat in the office.

office-romance-640x431The one thing that this Jerry has already shown you is that he does not respect marriage and you most defiantly should never fall for a guy with such standards. Another thing, he flirts with you because you allow him to. Most men know how to seek out the women that will give them the time of day.

And, as far as the “what should you do question” …well, that is solely up to you. If you think losing or harming your marriage is worth it; by all means carry on. But, if there is a mere chance that you honor your husband, you should begin letting this Jerry know that you are not interested in 100% of your actions.

I’d say that you should use this as fuel to seek what may be wrong in your marriage and work on how to feel that same passion with your own man.  Let this be an eye opening experience and not one that will keep you blind to the true harm this will bring.

If I may play devil’s advocate? Say you and this Jerry do have an office fling. What do you think will come next? Do you think this Jerry will become the love of your life and you two will ride into some sunset? Nah, more than likely, all it will do is cause you to feel guilty, used and uncomfortable every day after the fling at work.

Now, I never like to answer a question with another question, but Maxi…what WILL you do?

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Have a prosperous Tuesday, Maxi!

~ Kat 🙂

Tuesday’s Love Jones – 100 over 50’s!


Did you know that most people in relationships operate according to a 50/50 plan?

Now, I don’t know about you all, but, I for one will never accept anything less than 100% of anything…especially in a marriage or relationship.

Thinking of marriage as a 100/100 relationship, with each person willing to do whatever it takes to make the marriage work will assure the practice of bliss.  For a marriage to thrive, both spouses need to put aside their own desires and seek to serve the other.

For example, as I stated in the video; the hubs and I are spending time together in Arizona during his regular work week. This was relaxation for me, but for him it’s still work as usual. When he decided to wash his truck, I, without even thinking, commenced to cleaning the inside of the truck to help as much as possible for him to finish thing up before heading to work that night.

We were naturally and immediately team getting thing done and helping each other without even having to discuss it.

Tuesday's Love Jones - 100 over 50!

Just imagine waking up each day with a mindset to make your partner’s day a little happier?  Part of giving 100% of yourself is also realizing that this requires you to NOT ONLY worry about you and your own needs in the relationship.  Giving 100% is putting in extra effort that is well worth it for the health of your union.

Marriage is the union of two imperfect people that can sometimes become selfish and less concerned with the feelings of their partner, but if you concentrate on implementing the 100/100 idea in your relationship the outcome of newfound positivity my surprise you.

Have a wonderful Tuesday and remember that 100% is so much better than 50!!!

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