Tuesday’s Love Jones – Things for Couples to Remember While Quarantining!


Quarantine Ideas by Katrina Gurl

Since Trump doesn’t know how to run the country and is suggesting that his followers ingest cleaning products as a COVID19 antidote…our best bet is just stick closer to our family and learn new ways to strengthen our relationships withPawii our partner.

Let’s face it, there are a LOT of couples packing with tensions of quarantining in close quarters during this worldwide pandemic. Let’s just jump to the bold stuff, before you have to put a tranquilizer dart in your spouse’s neck for doing that irritating, “thing” again. Just be honest and put your feelings on the table and work them out like adults.

  1. I’m not used to you being home all day!

Like you, your spouse is under all sorts of stress. From working from home to homeschooling to the economy to lack of hand-sanitizer to having to live with you, the struggle is real.

When they mess up, ease up. Try not to get all bent out of shape about the way they deal with the kids, their towels on the floor, their way of managing to slurp through every bite of their cereal. Give them the grace you need now or are going to need soon.

  1. All these years and I never knew you were such a mean person!

Somehow we know exactly how to be kind to stranger during an entire work week, but now that we are at home every day with our loved ones, the knowledge of that has seemed to walk right out the door. You may be surprised how staggering helpful small doses of kindness can be for your relationship.

  1. You’re strange these days!

Some couples have a lot of differences. Every couple has some differences. Some of you are stressed your mate is not stressed enough about the coronavirus. Some of you are stressed because your spouse is too stressed. Some of you hate this time has messed-up your structure, while others are thrilled daily hygiene is optional.

Although it’s frustrating when you re-see the face you promised to love. They may be a LOT to deal with, but, so are you. There’s no better way to draw your mate to you than accepting them, all of them. They need your acceptance now more than ever.pawii2

  1. Try to have fun in this UN-FUN situation

I fully understand the coronavirus is serious. How in the world could we ever forget? The reminders are everywhere. But too much news causes too much stress. Too much stress weakens your immune system.

So, for the sake of doing your part, try to be at least semi-fun. You don’t have to do stand-up, but at least tell some jokes or do something fun around the house. And for all the love of God, if you see your mate TRYING to be kind, try to follow suit.

2020 is turning out to be the strangest year in a long while, but as far as relationships go…let’s make it remarkable memorable.

Below are some creative activities for couples. Some of them are weird, but who knows how long this will last. Things may get desperate!

Have Themed dinner and a movie…

  • Whip up a buttery and then watch Black AF or Dolemite Is My Name or The Big Lebowski.
  • Find a favorite, romantic play online and act it out for the family, or just for yourselves.

Put on a fashion show for each other

  • Do this while cleaning out the closet…try on clothing and show off your sexy off and let him/her decide if you should keep or toss that item.

Explore Instagram Live – Club Quarantine with DJ D- Nice

  • In a coronavirus world, for many folks, Saturday nights might have meant dance parties at clubs all around the country. But as we’re all social distancing, thanks to DJ D-Nice, any person anywhere can be part of one giant dance party at the same time—via Instagram.

Each week Club Quarantine reaches over of 100,000 with live viewers. Guests including Janet Jackson, Justin Timberlake, and John Legend popped in to the “party” throughout the week, but on Saturday the party got lit, as the kids say, with guests including Michelle Obama, Jennifer Lopez, Rihanna, Ellen DeGeneres. Even Democratic presidential candidates Vice President Joe Biden and Senator Bernie Sanders joined in on the fun! And, let’s not forget #SEXYTIME whenever Halle Barry steps in the room as chatroom fam has coined the hashtags #BERRYNICE.

D-Nice spins tracks by artists including Rihanna and Janet Jackson, he shouted out his special guests—even joking that perhaps guest Mark Wahlberg. Many also remarked on the power that music and dance has to change the world.

Tuesday’s Love Jones – The Integration of a Letter!


pile-love-lettersFor generations love letters had been the main source of communication for soldiers to their wives and girlfriends. Their loved ones would write back giving a soldier hope for the future and no doubt increase their strength, courage and overall morale.

Love letters have been treasured and written for centuries. Over the years the style of writing may have changed but their basic essence will always remain the same and that is to communicate the raw and true emotion of human devotion.

However, modern technology has led to a decline in the traditional writing of love letters. Instead of the art of writing by hand, you can now email loving sentiments, instant message them, tweet them and fax them but there is still nothing like receiving a conventional hand crafted letter by traditional post especially when sent overnight to a lover.

Written love letters are still and will always remain the most paradigmatic expression of love and heartfelt emotions expressed. Pure thoughts confessed by ink to paper. Confessions in ink that leaves a stain on our hearts even when the paper has long gone and withered away.

Song of Solomon PawiiBlogsThe earliest recording of the love letter dates as far back as the book of Solomon in the bible. One of the finest love art written about the love, adoration and attraction towards his woman is found in “Song of Solomon chapter 4.”

1 Behold, you are beautiful, my love,
behold, you are beautiful!
Your eyes are doves
behind your veil.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
leaping down the slopes of Gilead.
2 Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes
that have come up from the washing,
all of which bear twins,
and not one among them has lost its young.
3 Your lips are like a scarlet thread,
and your mouth is lovely.
Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate
behind your veil.
4 Your neck is like the tower of David,
built in rows of stone;
on it hang a thousand shields,
all of them shields of warriors.
5 Your two breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle,
that graze among the lilies.
6 Until the day breathes
and the shadows flee,
I will go away to the mountain of myrrh
and the hill of frankincense.
7 You are altogether beautiful, my love;
there is no flaw in you.
8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride;
come with me from Lebanon.
Depart[b] from the peak of Amana,
from the peak of Senir and Hermon,
from the dens of lions,
from the mountains of leopards.
9 You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride;
you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes,
with one jewel of your necklace.
10 How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!
11 Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;
the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
12 A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
a spring locked, a fountain sealed.
13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
with all choicest fruits,
henna with nard,
14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
with all trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
with all choice spices—
15 a garden fountain, a well of living water,
and flowing streams from Lebanon.
16 Awake, O north wind,
and come, O south wind!
Blow upon my garden,
let its spices flow.

Now is that letter writing at best or what? There is absolutely not one woman or man on earth that would not writtenly want to be adored like that.

Coming soon to a book store near you: Love Letters by Brooklen Born and Katrina Gurl
“FIND OUT MORE HERE” – A story that takes place as a man goes to war leaving his beloved wife behind.

In closing, on this wonderful Tuesday’s Love Jones edition…do something different and write a short letter to the person you love today. Go all out and put you heartstrings to ink proclaiming your love.

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Tuesday’s Love Jones – Building a Little Personal Rome!


How long did it really take to build Rome?

“Rome wasn’t built in a day” is what people say when it comes to waiting patiently for things.
You probably think you know what it means, but not only was Rome not built in a day; it was also at least 1000 year ahead of the rest of the world when it came to engineering.

“Rome was not built in a day” and have no idea how long it took to build Rome. But if it were like any other city, they are probably still working on it. Just like relationships, Cities and countries are always works in progress.

Why, the Romans aqueducts alone brought a constant flow of water from distant sources into cities and towns, supplying public baths, latrines, fountains and private households. Most Roman aqueducts proved reliable, and durable because of the careful, well studied, well planned and specific engineering skills they put into building one of the oldest cites in the world that sustain a population of over 1,000,000 people.

The same building power as the Romans can also holds true for couples. We are not built in a day or even a lifetime. As people, we are never finished until we die and even then we will not be finished, so what makes us THINK that healthy relationships can be built in a short time?

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Side Note: Rome’s first aqueduct was built 312 BC and The aqueduct is a technology that has survived the test of time. Yes, aqueducts are history but they are also progress.

 

 Essential tools to build a health relationship…

  • Stop – Take a quick pause and pay attention to the current situation in your relationship.
  • Look – Assess the happiness level of your relationship. If there are areas that need looking into…do something!
  • Listen – Take time to listen to your lover…even the things they may not say.
  • Learn – Pay attention to his/her actions.
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If you need a coach……I am right here!!!
  • Grow – Growth comes by putting action towards everything you have evaluated.

LIVE and LEARN. If we truly learn more by living more then it will be an easy adjustment to work on building something strong in your relationship that will last. The real goal is not to finish, but to make progress in your relationships every day. When we work a little each day on something, we eventually create our own individual Rome.

Do you think your relationship can be as powerful and the history of Rome?
Have a happy Tuesday 🙂