Tuesday’s Love Jones – Aging Sensually!

If your sex drive has taken a dive recently, you’re not alone: it’s common to go through waves of low libido as we age, buy just because we’re aging does not mean we have to take this lying down (get it? Lying down?) Let’s try out some of these of methods of boosting your sex drive and you’re sure to feel like your old self in no time.

Get Your Vitamin C Fix
Taking in plenty of vitamin C is good for you. What you might not have known, though, is that it’s also great for your sex drive. It turns out stocking up on foods like oranges, kiwi, green peppers, guava, and strawberries can really get you in the mood. Studies show that women who have high intakes tend to have more and sex.

Have a Cup of Coffee
Coffee wakes you up, gives you energy, and boosts your sex drive! Caffeine tends to make you want to get it on and will even give you a better experience once you do. So grab a cup or two tomorrow morning and get it on before work.

Massage Oil
Did you know that applying topically to your nether regions to heat things up?

Drink Some Red Wine
Drinking red wine to help increase your sex drive sounds way too good to be true. But no, you’re not dreaming! Studies found that treating yourself to a moderate intake of the antioxidant-packed beverage could help increase sexual desire, lubrication, and overall sexual function.

Try Fenugreek
You might not know too much about Fenugreek. The medicinal herb is touted as a way to help lower blood sugar levels and increase breast milk production, but research literally found that by taking a daily supplement of the powerful plant could also play a role in increasing sexual arousal and desire.

Serve Up Some Watermelon
Eating watermelon is such a summer treat, but you might want to grab it year-round: Research found the fruit might have Viagra-like effects on the body, giving your libido a solid boost due to the compounds it contains.


Make Time for Intimacy
It might feel weird taking the time to schedule in your freaking in the sheets, but in these fast flighting days we need way more playtime in our lives, right? The Mayo Clinic says adding some time for intimacy can get your sex drive back on track. And, get with the times and make that cell phone work for you more by sending a calendar invite to your hubby with some eggplant emojis to give him something to look for.

Drink Pomegranate Juice
Aside from water, there’s one more important beverage to include in your diet—at least in terms of your sex drive: pomegranate juice. According to a recent study in Scotland, just one glass a day not only helped boost participants’ mood and memory, but it also increased the amount of testosterone in their bodies, in turn increasing their libido. And for more ways to boost your testosterone.

Be More Open and Transparent with Your Partner
Sitting down and talking about why your sex drive has taken a hit with your partner might feel uncomfortable, but it’s necessary…especially if you want to get back on track! The Mayo Clinic also says communicating in an open, honest way can help you “maintain a stronger emotional connection, which can lead to better sex.” I always tell the men that come to counseling with their wives – “Honesty can be one of the sexiest things to turn your woman on!”

Doctor Prescribed Clitoral Therapy
Did you know that your doctor could help you increase your sex drive with a simply prescription for a device that costs $250? According to Harvard University, the Eros Clitoral Therapy Device uses a gentle vacuum to increase genital flow to the area — and in clinical trials, women were super impressed: 90% felt more sensation in the area after using it, and 80% had increased sexual satisfaction.

Reading Sexy Lit
Books are the best sex toy. According to a medical sexologist, nothing promotes sexual behavior and satisfaction quite like reading a book. This approach, known as bibliotherapy, has the ability to heal patients through the reading of texts. Sexy texts, in this case.
In addition to the sexual benefits of reading, bibliotherapy also has general psychological perks. Research suggests that actively fantasizing releases chemicals like dopamine and testosterone, which promote happiness.

It’s better than adult films because most women can’t relate to watching a hairless, glistening model with a tiny waist and huge breasts. Writers of erotica generally omit physical details about the characters’ appearances. Instead, they focus on emotional relationships and situations. This makes it easier for female readers to insert themselves in the scenario.

Books are safe the meaningful relationship if you’re trying to repair your libido. Women can’t feel aroused if they are inhibited. Finding that right balance of familiarity and boundaries can be hard to do, but books make it easy. Anyone can pick up a book at their leisure and read it on their own time.

I just so happen to be giving 5 free copies of my own book to the first 5 readers of this blog. All you have to do is fill out the register below for a copy of The Balcony View Revisit by yours truly, Katrina Gurl. This books is filled with short sexy stories that will light your room of fire.

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Happy Veterans Day – Vets Eat Free Today!

Several area restaurants are offering something free for veterans and active duty military personnel to thank them for their military service for Veterans Day, Nov. 11.

This is cool to know…


Oldest World War II vet Richard Overton, 109, honored by President Obama (November 10, 2013). “Oldest living WWII vet to meet with Obama”. Born: May 11, 1906 Bastrop County, Texas, TX Battles and wars: Pacific Ocean theater of World War II Service/branch: United States Army Allegiance: United States of America.

Now get some FREE FOOD…

All you Need is: Proof of Military Service.Most companies require some form of military ID. These include: a Military ID Card (active/reserve/retired), VA ID card, Current Leave and Earnings Statement (LES), Drivers License with Veterans Designation, Photograph in uniform, wearing your uniform (if your service permits), Veterans Organization Card (e.g., American Legion and VFW), DD214, discharge paperwork, or other form of identification. Note, there is a New Federal Veterans ID Card coming soon. Other restaurants and companies may go by the honor system.


Second, always call ahead to verify locations, times, and participation. Many of the listed companies are franchises and may have different policies. We will do our best to keep this page updated as we find new info.


Applebee’s – free meal, Nov. 11, 2015: Last year, Applebee’s served over one million free meals to military veterans and active servicemembers. Applebee’s is again offering a free meal to military veterans and active-duty service members on Veterans Day, Wednesday, Nov. 11, 2015. There will be 7 entrées to choose from, beverage and gratuity not included. Military ID or proof of service required. More.

Bar Louie, Free meal on Nov. 10th and 11th, 2015.From open to close November 10th and 11th every Bar Louie location across the country will offer veterans and military personnel a free meal up to a $12 value. Available at participating locations, military ID or proof of service is required. Locations.

BJs Restaurant and Brewhouse, Nov. 11, 2015. Free entree, up to $12.95 value. Offer valid to all active duty military and veterans, with proof of service. More infoLocations.


Bob Evans, Nov. 11, 2015. Free All you can eat hotcakes. For active duty military and veterans with ID or proof of service. More InfoLocations.

Bonanza Steakhouse, Nov. 11, 2015. Free Veterans Day buffet at participating locations. More infoLocations.

Brann’s Steakhouse and Grille. Free 6 oz Sirloin and two sides. Locations.

Buehler’s Grocery, Nov. 11, 2015. Free breakfast menu meal for veterans and active duty military. From 7:00 am until 11:00 am at participating locations.Locations.

Buffalo’s Cafe, Nov. 11, 2015. Free meal at participating locations. Locations.

Calhoun’s Restaurant, Nov. 11, 2015. Free meal, choice of Hickory Smoked Bar-B-Que Half Slab of Ribs, Hickory Smoked Bar-B-Que Pork Plate, “Ale” Steak, Fresh Chicken Calhoun, and Southern Fried Catfish. Proof of Service required.Locations.

California Pizza Kitchen, Nov. 11, 2015. Choose a pizza, full size salad, or pasta from the special Veterans Day Menu. Dine-in only. Please come in uniform or bring your military I.D. or other proof of service. Find a location near you

Tuesday’s Love Jones – ReLove!

ReLoveWe always believe our first love is our last, and our last love our first – George John Whyte-Melville

When we are heartbroken by the loves of our lives it literally feels like your stomach is going to crawl up into your heart and die a slow, painful death. Seemingly killing you softly and if that isn’t enough, you begin feeding this (what feels like) a torturous pit with self-pity because at least that subsides that feeling of emptiness, betrayal and loneliness.

If you are aching like this, I swear you will love again. You will make it though and when the timing is right you will know that the risk of love is worth it!

Yesterday as my daughter and I talk about the risk your heart feels at the thought of taking another chance at love, ReLovefor some strange reason a giraffe popped in my head…yes, I said a giraffe and here’s why:

A giraffe is the tallest mammal in the world, an adult giraffe can reach up to 17 ft tall, which in most cases they can reach the tip of the second level of a two story home easily.  The long neck of a giraffe has only 7 vertebrae and powerful muscles pump the blood up the long neck to its brain. A giraffe can only keep its head down for 25 seconds.  Anything longer than 25 seconds would alter the blood pressure balance and be extremely dangerous to the giraffe’s life.

Thus, just about everything a giraffe does that includes lowering its head is a risk factor, yet a mother giraffe will take that risk several time daily as she closely guards her newborn calf.

The process of RE-LOVING can feel extremely uncomfortable after a heartbreak, but it is indeed possible if you give love a chance again.  I chose to use the giraffe as a metaphor, because if an animal can instinctively take a risk to show love to their baby calves, surely we can LOVE OURSELVES enough to risk fully loving again.

The Journey to Love Begins with You…

Accept You!

Remember that until you fully accept who you are, you can’t change anything about your Life. The simple choice of acceptance of all parts of your being gives you ownership of your journey and therefore power to decide what stays, what leaves and what must evolve. Once you have made room to “love yourself’” you are creating space to bring density to your life. A life that you can be proud of.

Be Open to the Possibility of Love!

Life is a journey to which you have embarked with great potential to enjoy it all. When you let Love be your guide, it promises you to give you the ride of your Life.

Inviting Love!

I encourage people to take small steps. Love is the most gratifying gift on earth and how dare us not experiencing it in our everyday lives. We must trust that we will be OK. Shutting the door to love is not a real answer; it’s only the wall we build with false labeling, insecurities, lack of hope and plain old giving up.  At some point you have got to learn that trusting the chance to re-love is much bigger than our wounds of past hurts.

Now go ahead and have a happy Tuesday and take the risk of loving again!

~ Katrina 🙂


RePostMonday – How Good is Your Liar Detection?

#RePostMonday “The liar’s punishment is, not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.” ― George Bernard Shaw

What makes you just KNOW someone is lying to you? Is it a gut feeling, experience from the past or does it simply come natural to know that a person is NOT being 100 with you? There is no real formula to detect a liar, especially depending on the person you are dealing with. Each person tells lies based on what THEY see needed to conceal. However, there are some logical ways to decode a liar.

There’s a typical body language that we all do as humans when we are not being honest. These can be used as tell tell signs that one is lying to. Here’s what to look for…

Eight Ways to Know if You Are Being Lied To!

Lack of eye contact. Generally, if someone is lying they will not look you in the eye.

Odd, random voice changes. A change in the pitch of a person’s tone, or a lot of stammering (umm, ah), or throat clearing could indicate a lie.

Unnecessary sudden body language. If a person taps their foot a lot, fidgets with their hands, raises their shoulders, turns away from you or brings their hand to their face to touch their chin or nose, etc.

Something sounds too good to be true. Making statements that contradict each other, are inconsistent or don’t sound quite right are usually part of a lie.

Defensive for no real reason. Sometimes when a person is lying they will become extremely defensive, refusing to answer any questions and even accusing you of lying. This may mean they have something to hide.

Changes subject without answering full questions adequately. If someone is lying and you change the subject, chances are high that they’ll go right along with it. A person telling the truth, however, will likely ask why you changed the subject and want to go back to it.

Cracks jokes when a there is no laughing matter at hand. A guilty person will often try to change the subject using humor or sarcasm.

These were the top 7 reasons that we have compiled during our evasive online study and of course, no one behavior can tell for sure whether or not someone is telling the truth or lying. Trust your instinct; get some evidence to back up your accusation.

Never relying on a specific behavior and always know, that catching a liar in the act is best done by watching their normal behaviors. When those behaviors suddenly change, that’s when a lie has likely been told. Study the facts and the person, while making sure you knowledge is irrefutable.