Tuesday’s Love Jones – Aging Sensually!

If your sex drive has taken a dive recently, you’re not alone: it’s common to go through waves of low libido as we age, buy just because we’re aging does not mean we have to take this lying down (get it? Lying down?) Let’s try out some of these of methods of boosting your sex drive and you’re sure to feel like your old self in no time.

Get Your Vitamin C Fix
Taking in plenty of vitamin C is good for you. What you might not have known, though, is that it’s also great for your sex drive. It turns out stocking up on foods like oranges, kiwi, green peppers, guava, and strawberries can really get you in the mood. Studies show that women who have high intakes tend to have more and sex.

Have a Cup of Coffee
Coffee wakes you up, gives you energy, and boosts your sex drive! Caffeine tends to make you want to get it on and will even give you a better experience once you do. So grab a cup or two tomorrow morning and get it on before work.

Massage Oil
Did you know that applying topically to your nether regions to heat things up?

Drink Some Red Wine
Drinking red wine to help increase your sex drive sounds way too good to be true. But no, you’re not dreaming! Studies found that treating yourself to a moderate intake of the antioxidant-packed beverage could help increase sexual desire, lubrication, and overall sexual function.

Try Fenugreek
You might not know too much about Fenugreek. The medicinal herb is touted as a way to help lower blood sugar levels and increase breast milk production, but research literally found that by taking a daily supplement of the powerful plant could also play a role in increasing sexual arousal and desire.

Serve Up Some Watermelon
Eating watermelon is such a summer treat, but you might want to grab it year-round: Research found the fruit might have Viagra-like effects on the body, giving your libido a solid boost due to the compounds it contains.


Make Time for Intimacy
It might feel weird taking the time to schedule in your freaking in the sheets, but in these fast flighting days we need way more playtime in our lives, right? The Mayo Clinic says adding some time for intimacy can get your sex drive back on track. And, get with the times and make that cell phone work for you more by sending a calendar invite to your hubby with some eggplant emojis to give him something to look for.

Drink Pomegranate Juice
Aside from water, there’s one more important beverage to include in your diet—at least in terms of your sex drive: pomegranate juice. According to a recent study in Scotland, just one glass a day not only helped boost participants’ mood and memory, but it also increased the amount of testosterone in their bodies, in turn increasing their libido. And for more ways to boost your testosterone.

Be More Open and Transparent with Your Partner
Sitting down and talking about why your sex drive has taken a hit with your partner might feel uncomfortable, but it’s necessary…especially if you want to get back on track! The Mayo Clinic also says communicating in an open, honest way can help you “maintain a stronger emotional connection, which can lead to better sex.” I always tell the men that come to counseling with their wives – “Honesty can be one of the sexiest things to turn your woman on!”

Doctor Prescribed Clitoral Therapy
Did you know that your doctor could help you increase your sex drive with a simply prescription for a device that costs $250? According to Harvard University, the Eros Clitoral Therapy Device uses a gentle vacuum to increase genital flow to the area — and in clinical trials, women were super impressed: 90% felt more sensation in the area after using it, and 80% had increased sexual satisfaction.

Reading Sexy Lit
Books are the best sex toy. According to a medical sexologist, nothing promotes sexual behavior and satisfaction quite like reading a book. This approach, known as bibliotherapy, has the ability to heal patients through the reading of texts. Sexy texts, in this case.
In addition to the sexual benefits of reading, bibliotherapy also has general psychological perks. Research suggests that actively fantasizing releases chemicals like dopamine and testosterone, which promote happiness.

It’s better than adult films because most women can’t relate to watching a hairless, glistening model with a tiny waist and huge breasts. Writers of erotica generally omit physical details about the characters’ appearances. Instead, they focus on emotional relationships and situations. This makes it easier for female readers to insert themselves in the scenario.

Books are safe the meaningful relationship if you’re trying to repair your libido. Women can’t feel aroused if they are inhibited. Finding that right balance of familiarity and boundaries can be hard to do, but books make it easy. Anyone can pick up a book at their leisure and read it on their own time.

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Tuesday’s Love Jones – Relationship Boredom Brings Divorce!

Whether you’ve been together a year, a decade or starting over, there comes a time when you can just run out of things to say to one another.

black-couple-on-dateWhy is it, that we can be married  or in a relationship for years and still find that there is so much to know about each other?  Remember what your relationship was like in the beginning, when you could talk hours upon hours? It’s funny how time would just fly by and you would never run out of things to say!

Dating each other on a regular basis, should be something you continue to do, no matter how long you’ve been together. But what happens when you are on your “date night”, and you’ve nothing to say to each other?

Does this sound familiar, or what?

Regardless of where you are right now, you can change all this, starting today!  Break the ice of silence for an evening of fun, deep, romantic, meaningful and be sure to make SEX the ultimate goal for date night.

You many be surprised! Certain questions, can lead to some very interesting conversations. Ones that can last through the night!

One goofy thing my hubs and I do when we grocery shop is pick up food and read the backs of food labels in the most sexiest voice we can muster.  You’d be surprised how interesting oatmeal becomes by doing this. This is something we do that is sexy and funny as heck at the same time.

Couples need to take every little opportunity they can to learn more about each other and improve romance and the relationship.  When boredom sets in the possibilities are endless as HOW we may fill that void.  ESPECIALLY in this day and age where mayhem seems to be right at our fingertips.  From the web to our smart phones couples CANNOT afford to become disconnected.

12 Great Convo Starters…

  1. Where do you see us in a year from now?
  2. Where are the top 5 places you want to visit?
  3. If you could live anywhere in the world where would you want to live?
  4. If you could start over, what career would you choose?
  5. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
  6. If you were given a million dollars, how would you spend it?
  7. What is something you’ve never done, but would like to try? What keeps you from doing it?
  8. What is the nicest thing someone has done for you?
  9. What is your idea of a perfect day of relaxation?
  10. What is the one thing you admire about me?
  11. What is the best way for me to encourage you?
  12. Talk about your “Bucket List”!

Of course, you can always ask her/him the one question you’ve always wanted to ask. Go ahead, be daring! After all, you may just be surprised at where this evening will take you.

Recommended Reading

Learning to Protect your Marriage by Katrina Gurl on Amazon.


Aleta Williams of Los Angeles California

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