Tuesday’s Love Jones – Be a Cheap Date For Your Husband!

When you think of “dating,” you usually think of fun filled long talks, throbbing hearts, and bouquets of flowers. But who says all that has to stop after engagement—or after marriage, for that matter? 

The media paints life after marriage as boring, but we married people know better. That spark absolutely does not have to go out once you say “I Do!” 

Want to keep your romance fiery and fresh after the wedding cake has been eaten and the thank-you notes delivered? Here are some great ways to date your spouse!

1. Make Time… No Matter What 

The first step to dating your spouse is commitment. After all, commitment is what marriage is about! So commit to do something fun with each other regularly. 

2. Have Good Talks 

Communication, along with sex and money, is one of the top three reasons that marriages go south. Creating space for communication is important! 

Dates are the perfect opportunity for you and your spouse to connect. Spend time talking so you can keep acquainted and stay in touch with each other’s lives!

3. Make Errands into Dates 

Doing errands isn’t ideal for regular date nights, but it is great for days when you don’t have time to just relax together, and it’s also cheap.

4. Be OK with Cheap 

A common misconception is that quality romance has to be expensive. Let’s throw out that idea right now. Sure, you may not be able to afford bouquets of roses and diamond jewelry, but handmade notes and picnic dinners can be just as sweet! 

If you’re OK with dating cheap and don’t judge the quality of the experience by the cost, you can have a ton of fun doing things like going to the bookstore or exploring a public park.

5. Be Sexy 

You don’t want to be tempting before you get married and then let the flame go out once the wedding license is singed. This is the time to ramp it up and make your dates sizzle! 

Husband and I went to go see Once Upon a Time … in Hollywood starring Leonardo DiCaprio, Brad Pitt, Margot Robbie. Great movie, but after the flick…we passed by this cut little setting area that seemed perfect for taking photos.

We had such a fun little 30 minutes taking these pics! We laughed, talked and just acted like goofy kids.

6. Do Overnight Dates 

Book a cute little house a few hours away and spend a couple days away from the stresses of life!

There are so many great ways to do overnight dates. If you want to rekindle the romance of your early married days, why not go on a second honeymoon?

Dating your spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage strong and healthy! Maintain communication, spend time together, and keep your romance alive. There are few things in life that are more important than your relationship with your spouse, so take the time to let him or her know just how much you care. 

Tuesday’s Love Jones – Fighting with Respect!

 

When it comes to relationships, conflict is inevitable. But it doesn’t have to be emotionally distressing or callous. Couples can disagree and, yes, even fight while still showing compassion and respect for each other. Relationships that can’t be saved are relationships where the flame has completely gone out, or it wasn’t there in the first place

Frequent heated and hurtful conflict is certainly not healthy or sustainable, either. You can have conflicts with your partner in a constructive way, and it may actually bring you closer together.

If you want to navigate conflict with your partner in a healthier and more productive way, keep these things in mind during your next argument:

~ Schedule a time for conflict

~ Call a timeout if you or your partner needs one

During an argument, it’s common for one or both partners to enter “fight, flight or freeze” mode, humans enter one of these modes when they think they may be in danger. “Fight or flight” refers to when stress hormones activate to give people more energy to either fight the stressor or run from the situation. And “freeze” mode occurs when a person simply does not react at all, in hopes that the stressor loses interest in the fight.

~ Make requests instead of complaints

Fights often start with the same two words: “You always.” Rather than asking their partner to do something they’d like them to do, like cleaning up around the house, people jump to make accusations.

~ Listen, and ask your partner for clarification

~ Learn the right way to apologize to your partner

Just as people have different love languages, we have different apology languages, too. It’s not enough to recognize that you’ve hurt your loved one and you owe them an apology: You have to know them enough to tailor your apology to their needs.

In closing, remember that when couples argue, we are not enemies. Even when we do not agree we are still on the same team!

TLj – Voiceless Signs of His Love!

There are many love languages that speak to everyone in different ways. Body language reveals how connected and attracted someone is to you. So it’s good to learn about what different gestures and postures mean about how the other person feels.

Body Language that Men Love You Deeply – He Wants to Serve You and Make You Comfortable

When you find your man going out of his way to make sure you feel comfortable and have everything you need, this is definitely a sign that he deeply loves you. Like when you sit down for a movie, he gets up to get you a drink, or when you’re out on the town and it starts to get chilly, he offers you his jacket. When he’s paying close attention to your needs, it’s the real deal!

He Looks at You with Sincerity

Men that avoid eye contact could be hiding something from you, or it could mean that they’re not trustworthy. Looking into someone’s eyes is a very vulnerable act, so if he’s gazing into your eyes all the time, he’s got some deep feelings for you; and he wants to look into your eyes to find validation that you feel the same.

He Throws in Down in the Kitchen

Want to know the most obvious body language that a man loves you? He wants you to love his food, and love him too. Bon appetite!!!

He Wants to Be Close to You

The body language of men in love could include hand holding, putting his arm around you, leaning towards you when sitting together, among many other gestures that are pointed in your direction.

He Can’t Hear Anyone but You

He’s totally in love with you when he hangs on to every single word you say. An in love man that gives you his full attention, even in a crowded room. He listens attentively, and his responses are thoughtful and vibrant. This is completely natural and it’s because he’s so into every move you make.

He Smiles When He Sees You

When your man greets you with a blank face, he’s probably losing affection. But if he flashes his pearly whites at you, then he’s obviously happy to see you! He thinks you’re gorgeous, funny, and fascinating. When he keeps smiling at you throughout the time that you spend together, then you’re making him happy and he wants to keep spending quality time with you.

He Is Chivalrous

While acts of chivalry could simply be an indicator of general politeness, a man is definitely falling for a woman when he goes out of his way to open doors for you, pull out your chair, and give you his coat when it’s chilly. A true gentleman will always take care of you in these little ways, which also give a signal to other men that you are all his.

He Takes Care of His Appearance

The body language of men in love also includes his appearance. If he takes care of the way he looks for you, which means he wants to impress you, no matter how many years you’ve been together.

Kat’s Call…

Even if he hasn’t expressed his love for you verbally, there could be plenty of nonverbal signs that he’s totally in love with you. If you’re on the lookout for clues that he’s in L-O-V-E with you, watch out for some of the signs in this post and PLEASE REMEMBER THAT ACTIONS ALWAYS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!

Put A Wedge In It – Married with a Crush!

Being married with a little crush is no big deal if you’re all grown up and here is why…

It shouldn’t be really surprising to learn that your partner may be attracted to someone else. Just because a person notices the opposite sex does not mean that it’s the end of your relationship. And heck, if you’re honest with yourself, you’ve probably checked out other people just within the last second ago or two. But, that by no means mean infidelity IF you are in a committed relationship.

In fact, new research from Indiana University finds that 70 percent of women in relationships admit to having crushes on other guys.

Yep, I’m talkin full-on crushes.

I mean the kind of crush where you blush, flirt and even become fully excited when a particular guy enters a room. Furthermore, in the study, women who had been in a relationship for at least 3 years answered open-ended questions about their crushes. And, this was a study amongst full grown seasoned adults, not college kids.

Crushes don’t just magically stop during adolescence either. They continue right on throughout our lives and it is natural. However, it is how we handle our crush is where the real love and respect for our significant others step in.

If your relationship is solid, a crush can be a passing fad. But, if your relationship is rocky it can become more really fast. For example: If I had a crush (and Lord knows I have), I usually snap out of it and realize I wouldn’t really want to break my marriage up for something that very well may fad. So, managing your feelings is key.

How to Handle the Fact that you are Crushing HARD…!!!

• Remember that it’s natural!

Though you may think you’re the worst wife/girlfriend in the world for even thinking that someone else is funnier, cuter or sexier than your undisputed one true love, the truth is that you’re not evil, you’re just human. In fact, you’ve only succumbed to the same natural phenomenon as millions of other good, decent men and women.

• Have control!

Yes, I know those stomach butterflies are real…but it’s how you behave in the face of temptation that reveal your true character.

• Look at the person you really are!

Ask yourself: Is this crush magnified because you are unhappy with your partner? A crush may reveal trouble in paradise or it may indicate that you’ve allowed too much emotional distance within your relationship. Spend less time thinking about that cute guy at work and more quality time with your partner and make sure it’s time spent laughing, talking, and confiding in one another.

• Are you just lonely?

Keep your crush to yourself, but if you’re feeling lonely or undesirable or just missing some affection from your significant other, that’s information your partner should know. It isn’t necessary for our partner to know about the content of our fantasies, nor that we are even having them, but rather to be engaged in a discussion with them about what we are needing or missing in the relationship and how we can get it from them, in order that the two of us feel closer again.

• Remember, your relationship is worth the fight!

Studies show that couples that grow together, stay together. So keep the love alive by continually experiencing new places, ideas and experiences with your partner. Draw your beloved closer and decide to take on the world…with all of its temptations, joys, sorrows and struggles…TOGETHER.

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