Everyone needs security and trust in a relationship. And if you’re making your lover feel emotionally secure, that’s awesome!
Relationships are great, but often times things to go wrong without proper communication. Men and women need very different and specific things in a relationship.
Sometimes it’s difficult or darn near impossible for men to recognize what their wife/girlfriend need to feel safe. And safety is definitely one of those things women need in a relationship. it is not cliché…it’s a fact.
Here are 5 ways for fellas to give your woman security in a relationship
1. Just Listen…
In order to make sure that your woman feels safe, she needs to know that you’re listening to her.
When she talks, she needs to be sure that you’re paying attention and understanding what she’s saying and feeling.
You might be inclined to think you need to “fix” her to make her feel safe, but in reality, all she really wants you to do is listen to her and let her know that you’re there for her.
So, the next time she opens up to you, sit down and pay attention. Give her eye contact, empathize with her feelings, and confirm that you hear her.
2. Don’t Be Fly By Night with It…
Are you one of those people who doesn’t always do what you say you’re going to do? Your intentions are good, but things get in the way of you following through.
Do you make promises that for whatever reason you just don’t keep?
There is nothing worse to a woman than a cereal promise breaker!
Make sure you do what you say you’re going to do. Allow her to feel confident that she can rely on you to always be there for her.
3. Use Your Alphabets…
Have you ever thought to yourself, “I don’t need to tell her how I feel about her, she knows?” Do you just assume that she’ll know how much you love her because you pay the bills or mow the lawn?
Using all your alphabets to communicate how you truly feel is a key component in making her feel safe. We are living in a pandemic, so make sure you let her know how you feel often is a great practice in general. Tomorrow is literally not promised to any of us.
She might have a sense of how you feel, but to actually hear the words come out of your mouth lets her know that you have her back, and that you care about her enough to say it.
4. Be a Real Grown Up…
Whether you believe it or not, men are genetically programmed to be protectors. The survival of the species depended on men protecting their women and children from predators. That instinct is not gone just because we are in 2021.
Yes, I believe men and women are equal, but just because women are more independent now more than any time in history, it does not negate the fact that in a relationship women need emotional security.
5. Be Real…
The #1 most important thing you can do to make your woman feel safe is being honest.
For a woman to feel safe, she needs to trust you. And, if you can’t be honest with her, she most likely will never truly trust you.
All the components in this blogs coincide for a reason! Do this stuff and I literally promise you fellas…
The outcome of this will make her feel emotionally safe with you. And, she’ll have a crush on you forever.
- Listen to her.
- Do what you say you’re going to do.
- Tell her how you feel about her.
- Protect her.
- and Be honest to her!
If you have trouble saying the right stuff out your mouth dedicate the STEVIE WONDER song to her randomly one day.