Establishing relationship goals does not have to be a complicated situation. The simpler and more straightforward the goals are, the better. The key is to just do things daily that will make a big difference.
Becoming a better partner to your mate is certainly doable and achievable. And, please DO NOT begin this process by setting goals for your partner! Focus on establishing your own goals!!! When you both set personal goals you BOTH WIN!!! Similar to your career or fitness goals, your relationship can plateau if you don’t give it your full attention.
Consider what your relationship needs and start there. However, the moment you figure out goals you wish to set…start with yourself to make the change.
When you and your partner work together to create goals that improve or maintain the health of your relationship, you also create an atmosphere of pure love and companionship. “I suggest couples both write down three goals on their own and then share them with each other, explaining why each goal is important to them. This can lead to some good conversations about the satisfaction and fulfillment in the relationship too.”
- Try not to be critical of your partner’s needs.
- Ask questions if you don’t understand his or her request.
- Try not to take it personally if they need something that you aren’t giving them.
Writing the goals down will help you and your partner remain focused and these written goals can also act as the antidote to the lethargic tendencies that can creep into any marriage over time. This list is by no means meant to be long and drawn out. Just reflect on the areas of your relationship that you’d like to improve. Period.
For instance, when my hubs and me did this in our own relationship, one of the things he wanted me to do is call him more while he’s away on the road. I was glad we talked about it, because I truly never knew that bothered him. I’m a publisher and I spend a lot of time on the phone anyway, so I guess I do lack to call him in a run of a week. Him bringing this to my attention, made me eager to change on that.
#RelationshipGoals-Where to begin…
- First, pick an area of your relationship that you’d like to work on!
- Communication your goals: State your needs directly!
- Show compassion in support goals!
- Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable…say what you need!
- Just commit! Being in a committed relationship means learning to compromise. Taking steps to appreciate your partner’s viewpoint sends the message that you take your partner’s needs seriously.
- Take time with your partner. Demonstrate that your relationship is a top priority in your life.
One More Thing:
If at all possible, never waiver date night. Life can be busy and relationships can sometimes feel mundane. It’s important to do fun and romantic things together on a weekly basis. Date night can be something to look forward to throughout the week.
Research shows that couples who have sex two or more times a week are more satisfied in their relationships. The week can go by fast, so try putting reminders in your phone but don’t tell your partner and then surprise them by initiating sex.
And above all, your relationship may look different from the rest of the world, and that’s okay. It’s your relationship and it needs to work for you, not everyone else.
Share some of your #RelationshipGoals