In Greek mythology, the Hydra was a dangerous water serpent with many heads. Its breath was allegedly poisonous, and for every head you cut off two more would grow in its place. In the last two weeks, I have noticed couples on Facebook in my network, have either merged their profiles OR have been allowing access to passwords, making it a COSHARED account. Unknowingly they’ve become Hydras in their own way.
Some couples may COSHARE because they want to share everything with each other and prove they have nothing to hide (or perhaps discourage unfaithful online flirting). Or some relationships may have a serious bully that only finds peace of mind if they are in full control of his/her media accounts.
If in a relationship, it should be all mutual friends anyway, right? And if there are no secrets…..what’s the big deal, right???
To a certain degree that may be true, but the online social network is not designed for this sort of limitation. Consider: we can’t possibly know everyone that our significant other has ever known. Nor were we really meant to. Instead, social media allows us to hold on to connections or make new ones that may pertain to our businesses. It’s designed so we never have to “lose” people and or vital business connections.
When there is a bully in the relationship (or should I say the HYDRA Effect); all it really does is compromise individuality and respect of privacy. And, we all know that when one person in the relationship is THAT controlling and THAT jealous; there is no way access to social media accounts will feed the greed to control your partner.
Before you know it, when the bullying head is severed…another one will grow in its place.
We encourage individuality and the opportunity to just trust your mate.
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