Ten Emotional Needs for Men!


Here are 10 emotional needs of men. We all have them, but in different order of importance. My personal top needs, in order are:

  1. Spiritual security
  2. Family Commitment
  3. Openness & Honesty
  4. Physical Attractiveness
  5. Sexual Fulfillment
  6. Admiration

Now that’s me as a woman, but MEN are different…

In a survey we found that these are the TOP 10 emotional needs of men (maybe not in this order)…

Affection – Affection is the expression of care. It symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval vital ingredients in any relationship.

Sexual Fulfillment – When you married, you and your spouse promised to be faithful to each other for life. You agreed to be each other’s only sexual partner. You made this commitment because you trusted each other to meet your sexual needs, to be sexually available and responsive to each other. The emotional need for sex, then, is a very exclusive emotional need. If you have this need, you will be very dependent on your spouse to meet it. You have no other ethical choices.

Recreational Companionship – Before you were married, chances are pretty good that you planned your dates around your favorite recreational activities. That’s because when it’s an important emotional need, recreational companionship can often deposit enough love units to trigger romantic love. And since you wanted your relationship to flourish, you probably chose activities that you both enjoyed.

Honesty & Openness – Those with a need for honesty and openness want accurate information about their spouses’ thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities and plans for the future. If their spouse does not provide honest and open communication, trust is undermined and the feelings of security can eventually be destroyed. They cannot trust the signals that are being sent and feel they have no foundation on which to build a solid relationship.

Learn how to meet the need of Honesty and Openness

Physical Attractiveness – If you have this need, an attractive person will not only get your attention, but may distract you from whatever it was you were doing. In fact, that’s what may have first drawn you to your spouse his or her physical attractiveness.

Financial Support – People often marry for the financial security that they expect their spouse to provide them. In other words, part of the reason they marry is for money.

Domestic Support – Domestic support involves the creation of a peaceful and well-managed home environment. It includes cooking meals, washing dishes, washing and ironing clothes, house cleaning and child care. If you have the need for domestic support, when your spouse does some of these things, you feel fulfilled, and when it is not done you feel very annoyed.

Conversation – The need for conversation is not met by simply talking to someone. It is met when the conversation is enjoyable for both persons involved.

  1. Good conversation is characterized by using it to inform and investigate each other.
  2. Focusing attention on topics of mutual interest.
  3. Balancing the conversation so both have an equal opportunity to talk and giving each other undivided attention while talking to each other.

Family Commitment – In addition to a greater need for income and domestic responsibilities, the arrival of children may create in you the need for your spouse to become active in the moral and educational development of the children.

Admiration – Many of us have a deep desire to be respected, valued and appreciated by our spouse. We need to be affirmed clearly and often. There’s nothing wrong with feeling that way. Even God wants us to appreciate Him.

Physical Attractiveness – If you have this need, an attractive person will not only get your attention, but may distract you from whatever it was you were doing. In fact, that’s what may have first drawn you to your spouse his or her physical attractiveness.

6 Comments on “Ten Emotional Needs for Men!

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  2. Great post big sis. These are definitely 10 of the top emotional needs of all men. Though there are a few outliers here and there these definitely are points that a lot of women folk need to read in order to foster a deeper understanding of what’s missing in their relationship. So, when are the emotional needs of women being posted?

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