Tuesday’s Love Jones – A Sooth of Inspiration!

“You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose.”
~ Jo Coudert

If you are single most likely someone has told you how lonely it must be being single. Truth is…there is a big different between being single and lonely. I know cause I looked it up…

Lonely: solitary; without company; companionless.
Alone: separate, apart, or isolated from others.

When a person is single it means that you have not made a sexual commitment with anyone. You are free to see whoever you want whenever you want. Well, in most cases that’s what it means.

When a person is lonely it means that they have a feeling of emptiness and may feel a disconnect from people. Being single has nothing to do with being loneliness. Many people are in a relationship because they are lonely or felt lonely when they were single, but if you are lonely it doesn’t matter if you are single or in a relationship. In order to enjoy life you have to enjoy being with yourself all by yourself sometimes.

Besides, being single may not always be a bad thing. Break-ups hurt and you may be be relieved for getting away from a manipulative or an abusive relationship.  I remember the first time I realized I was being lied to and was dealing with man that had no truth in him. So, I guess it is better to be single than to be with someone you don’t even trust as far as you can throw them! Right?

Tips to note…

Finding and being yourself can be imperative while single. When you were in the last relationship, you thought you’d found Mr. or Misses right and had finally found your place in the world, but when that place/person is suddenly gone, you may feel disregarded and lost, wondering who you are and will you EVER find that special someone.  This is the time to realize  that you exist as an individual regardless of whomever you have attached yourself to.  Take this time to make YOU important again.

Reinventing your life through personal interests and or a new career.  Go sow some wild oats! Do something major that you have always wanted to do. Most people have a lot of living to do before they’re truly ready to settle into responsible family lives and while we are not recommending that you go out and get all irresponsible while single, we do recommend that you have fun, live a little, let go of the baggage, release all negativity, find a new purpose and live with a new standard of putting yourself first!!!

A Quick Lookah Here Moment:

“Don’t worry about what others may think. Being single must never be confused with loneliness! Single only means that you are opting out of being in a relationship that will do you or your future NO GOOD! Love your single self and be happy until someone comes along that will make you even MORE happy!”

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The Trailer- A Sooth of Inspiration Day – Single and Happy!


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