TLj – Act Like You Like Yourself!


Late last week, I came across a post on facebook about a girl/fan that got several imagessurgeries to look like Angelina Jolie.  This post saddened my heart, because this girl’s lack of self-esteem has to be on the highest low to even attempt to do this.

This made me come up with a few ways people can try to feel a little more confident and true to thyself. Confidence is one of those things that some people are born with, and some people aren’t. A lot of us find ourselves struggling to feel confident on a daily basis, and it’s a really tough battle to fight, so how can you feel good about yourself when there are certain things you just don’t like about yourself?

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Analyze Your Media Inspiration: First step to help personal confidence is to stop looking at the women on the TV shows/video games/magazines/films you enjoy as inspiration. More than not, media folks have all had work done and or have airbrushed everything they have posted.  We cannot take pics from celebs seriously. Instead, find fashion bloggers or models who have similar physical traits to you.

A person in whom is conscious about amplifying their great attributes. Find someone who you can look at and say ‘they are attractive’ despite them being fat or having bad skin or bad teeth or whatever. And try to look at someone like that every day. Heck, you can use me for inspiration if ya like.  I have been blogging for years, have gone up and down in my weight and more UP than not. However, I know that my confidence in myself is strong and is not based on my size or how big I think my nose is!!!

Check me out on The Confidence Bargain of the Week.

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Get Real: Confidence shouldn’t be based solely upon your looks. It is important that you try to focus on your other good qualities to build up confidence. I’m sure you have many. Just like attractiveness shouldn’t be the main source of your confidence. You need to like yourself if you want others to like you as well. If losing weight will do that for you then maybe that is where you should start, but liking yourself whether big or small would be an even healthier place to get to.

Act Like You Like Yourself: A lot of people who believe they are unattractive stop putting any effort at all into how they look. For example, many women will never do their hair, makeup, nails, etc. Or they’ll stay in sweatpants or baggy gym shorts all the time instead of trying to wear something that is cute and flattering. Just because you’re insert perceived problem here doesn’t mean you can’t dress up or treat yourself to nice things.

In Closing….

IMG_4854Kat’s Call:  You have to find things that make YOU feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, just know that you are perfect just the way you are and no one else has to think that but you! The opinion that you have of yourself is the only one that matters, So, dress well, groom yourself and look in the mirror and KNOW that you are just a awesome and beautiful as you wanna be!!!

TLj – Voiceless Signs of His Love!


pawiiblogsThere are many love languages that speak to everyone in different ways. Body language reveals how connected and attracted someone is to you. So it’s good to learn about what different gestures and postures mean about how the other person feels.

Body Language that Men Love You Deeply – He Wants to Serve You and Make You Comfortable

When you find your man going out of his way to make sure you feel comfortable and have everything you need, this is definitely a sign that he deeply loves you. Like when you sit down for a movie, he gets up to get you a drink, or when you’re out on the town and it starts to get chilly, he offers you his jacket. When he’s paying close attention to your needs, it’s the real deal!

He Looks at You with Sincerity

Men that avoid eye contact could be hiding something from you, or it could mean that they’re not trustworthy. Looking into someone’s eyes is a very vulnerable act, so if he’s gazing into your eyes all the time, he’s got some deep feelings for you; and he wants to look into your eyes to find validation that you feel the same.pawwiipicks

He Throws in Down in the Kitchen

Want to know the most obvious body language that a man loves you? He wants you to love his food, and love him too. Bon appetite!!!

He Wants to Be Close to You

The body language of men in love could include hand holding, putting his arm around you, leaning towards you when sitting together, among many other gestures that are pointed in your direction.

He Can’t Hear Anyone but You

He’s totally in love with you when he hangs on to every single word you say. An in love man that gives you his full attention, even in a crowded room. He listens attentively, and his responses are thoughtful and vibrant. This is completely natural and it’s because he’s so into every move you make.

He Smiles When He Sees You

When your man greets you with a blank face, he’s probably losing affection. But if he flashes his pearly whites at you, then he’s obviously happy to see you! He thinks you’re gorgeous, funny, and fascinating. When he keeps smiling at you throughout the time that you spend together, then you’re making him happy and he wants to keep spending quality time with you.

He Is Chivalrous

While acts of chivalry could simply be an indicator of general politeness, a man is definitely falling for a woman when he goes out of his way to open doors for you, pull out your chair, and give you his coat when it’s chilly. A true gentleman will always take care of you in these little ways, which also give a signal to other men that you are all his.

He Takes Care of His Appearance

The body language of men in love also includes his appearance. If he takes care of the way he looks for you, which means he wants to impress you, no matter how many years you’ve been together.

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Even if he hasn’t expressed his love for you verbally, there could be plenty of nonverbal signs that he’s totally in love with you. If you’re on the lookout for clues that he’s in L-O-V-E with you, watch out for some of the signs in this post and PLEASE REMEMBER THAT ACTIONS ALWAYS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!

TLj – First Comes Lust, then Comes Love!


If you were wondering if it’s truelove, or just lust…here’s how to tell!

Did you know that falling in love actually happens over time, and the journey frompawiiblogs2initial attraction to deep romantic love is a predictable course that depends on many different factors?

Love is an intense feeling of affection toward another person. It’s a profound and caring attraction that forms emotional attachment. On the flip side, lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature that is based on physical attraction. Lust can transform into deep romantic love, but it usually takes time.

Two individuals will transform their lust into love when they get to see the whole individual (their strengths and weaknesses) and get past the “fantasy” level.

pawiiblogs3First Stage of Lust

Lust is the first stage of falling in love. It’s driven by desire. The sex hormones play an important role in this stage. According to experts, this stage may begin immediately and can last up to two years.

What Lust Looks Like in this Stage:

  • You’re focused on the physical appearance of the object of your desire.
  • There is a strong desire to have sex, but not deep emotional conversations.
  • You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
  • You are lovers, but not necessarily friends.

Second Stage of Lust is Attraction

This is the “love-struck” phase. When you spend hours daydreaming about your lover; when you lose sleep or your appetite, you know you’re in this phase. The neurohormones that play an important role in the attraction or infatuation phase are dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin. These are the hormones that send our heart racing, and might actually make us feel like we are going insane.

Finally, Comes Love and Attachment

When a couple has gotten to know themselves beyond the courting phase and they get to see their partner’s “whole” personality, including their strengths and weaknesses, and still choose to love and accept each other for who they are, a neurohormone of love called oxytocin takes over. This is the commitment hormone. It’s released during orgasm and believed to promote bonding when adults are intimate.

Signs of the Truest Love

This type of love is not just an emotion, it’s also a craving. There is a strong emotional craving, the love drive is even stronger than the sex drive.

  • Possessiveness. When you desire only that one person, you know you are in deep romantic love.
  • You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
  • You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
  • You want to honestly listen to each other’s feelings and make each other happy.
  • He or she motivates you to be a better person.
  • You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
  • You can’t stop thinking about that person.

At this stage, instead of a split between love and lust, your new path lies in the balancing of the two: committed love and red hot sex, security and excitement, continuity and novelty, safety and adventure, comfort and passion. The happiest couples are the ones that can maintain a balance between lust and love.

katrina gurl 3Kat’s Call: Enjoy the journey of this amazing discovery relating with someone for whom you lust. If the chemistry is right, it will transform into romantic love! Who knows, you may just be lusting you future husband/wife!!!

Don’t rush it! Allow it to unfold naturally. The more you bring love, honesty, passion and romance into your own self-relationship, the easier it will be to attract someone who shares those same qualities.

You may also want to read: 

RePost Monday – Is Lust Okay?
Lust Among Spouses – Sinful or Not?

TLj – Rapturous Bonds!


“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown

By now I’m sure that most of of us KNOW that there are no such things as perfect relationships, but however, there are perfect things we can do to make them feel that way.

Trust

Trust is crucial. Period. No ifs or buts. If you are in the relationship for the long term, you simply cannot afford to have trust issues. There is no room for doubt. You have to trust with a full heart that your partner loves you.

Quality Time

Quality time is essential. Do something fun together, do something meaningful, have meaningful conversations, pay attention to each other, and express your love like crazy.

Communication

When you communicate with your loved one, remember that love is the key. Speak from the heart. Have good intentions and be clear. Discuss problems in a loving manner. Practice effective active listening skills; do not interrupt the other person, listen and watch. Be mindful. Remain calm. Be respectful. Be loving.

Small Acts of Kindness

Small acts of kindness have always been a big part of of a good relationship. Small acts are vital. Whether it is a small gift, doing the dishes, or giving a hug, it shows your love and support. Send flowers, send an ecard, or leave a small note on the table. Bake cookies or make breakfast in bed. Give hugs and kisses for no reason other than to show your love.

Express Your Love

Love is always the foundation. It’s nearly obvious, but sometimes so obvious that couples tend to forget about it, and saying “I love you” becomes monotonous. But love is the basis and the reason of your relationship. So express your love through actions, words, and non-verbal communication. Don’t make “I love you” a routine, but instead always, and I do mean always, say it from the heart.

This is Kat’s call and have a rapturous Tuesday!!!