Tuesday’s Love Jones – A Piggyback Post!


The other day my fellow blogger (Xavier Young) posted an amazing topic that got my attention. The name of the post was “How do women liked to be SPOILED??” It’s a pretty simple question, but depending on the woman you ask, there can be a countless variations of responses. The women that did answer over on his post came up with so many views that helped me to realize the language of love means so many different things to each individual. Feel free to drop by his blog to see all the amazing responses at: LOVE IS CONFUSING!

HERE’S HOW I NEED TO BE SPOILED…

RESPECT: Respect is the most important building block in a relationship. Respect is a pattern of behavior that is found in healthy relationships. You have to give respect in order to get it and each partner deserves it.

HONESTY: To deepen the bond with your partner and stay more connected to each other you need to be totally honest. The more committed you are, the more loving the relationship. For me, honesty is a turn on. When someone is comfortable enough with themselves to be honest, it makes to want to give more of myself to the person I’m with whether that be physically or emotionally.

TRANSPARENTCY: People think that transparency is the same as honesty and here’s how they differ: Transparency is a way of relating to your partner in which you reveal your inner self, your true experience. That means exposing your vulnerabilities and fears, as well as your desires and points of view about whatever issues you’re discussing. Honesty is an individual practice a person chooses to live by.

TRUST: It is trust that allows us to navigate the uncertain and complex world we live in today. With the rise of the internet, mobile phones, email, chat and social media, it is so much easier for people to connect or spend more time others without your partner even knowing. Trust to me is being able to set my watch to what I know my mate will do in certain situations. Without even having a second thought, I want…no I need to know that I can trust my man in my presence or out.

and LUST: In a prior PAWII post, we had come to realize that lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body also an uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite. READ POST HERE

Within the marriage, there isn’t a problem with lust toward our spouses, because we are supposed to feel a strong sexual desire towards them, right?  It’s perfectly normal to lust your spouse during sex, but it is also something that one should practice 24/7 and that’s just another way I need to be spoiled!!!

In closing, I have enjoyed answering the question of my fellow blogger’s amazing post and can’t wait to see what he comes up with next.

 

Tuesday’s Love Jones – My ‘Work Husband’ Is Messing Up My Marriage!


It may be innocent but then again, you may accidentally fall in love.

At what point is your relationship with your work spouse a threat to your actual marriage or relationship? This is an important question to ask yourself if you want to keep trust and connection strong with your romantic partner or spouse, right? There IS such a thing as an emotional affair. It is potentially just as destructive as a sexual affair. The tricky thing about an emotional affair is that you may be in one and not even realize it.

A few signs of an emotional affair are:

  • Secrets about what you said or did with the other person
  • a stronger emotional bond than the love relationship or marriage
  • a preference for the friend instead of the partner and
  • feelings of sexual attraction underlying the friendship

The work spouse relationship is one unfortunate way to set yourself up for an emotional affair without meaning to.

And, here are a few reasons why:

Confusion…
Most of us have pretty clear expectations of what it is to be a wife or husband and that almost always includes sexual intimacy. When you call someone your work husband or work wife, you send mixed messages about what you’re looking for in what would otherwise be a professional relationship.

Temptation…
Confusion about what it means to be a “work couple” can very easily lead to one (or both) of you crossing the boundary between friendship and romantic relationship.

Disconnection…
The implication in a relationship like this is that you are gravitating toward this person you work with instead of toward your actual spouse or romantic partner. When you devote time, attention and energy to your work spouse, the results are disconnection and distance in your love relationship or marriage.

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Jealousies…
The confidences you share with your work husband or the way you’ve come to depend on your work wife/husband will inevitably trigger jealousy. Trust gets damaged in the process and that can take a very long time to heal.

Distraction…
Think about it this way: what happens when you have two pots of soup on the stove and you’re trying to stir and add spices to them both at the same time? Maybe you can care for them both equally, but it’s likely that you’ll neglect one in favor of the other. The soup you focus less of your attention on is probably going to burn.

In Closing…

If you’ve elected to be in a monogamous relationship, it’s up to you to choose. Which relationship is most important to you??? If it’s your relationship with your spouse or romantic partner, then that’s the one you should focus upon the most.

I am so NOT saying that you can’t make friends with or share fun and meaningful experiences with your co-workers, but I am reminding you to be honest with yourself. When you feel dissatisfied at home, get to the root of that dissatisfaction. Look for what’s causing you to feel the way you do and then communicate with your partner — without blaming — and come up with solutions that help you both feel fulfilled and excited by the continued growth in your relationship.

 

Tuesday’s Love Jones – Types of Orgasms All Grown Women Should Be Having!


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We all ready know that female sexuality is a bit more complex than men’s, but it is so complex, a lot of couples out there have experimented with sexual games, or people decide to explore their bodies to get to know themselves better

  1. The clitoris: We call it the success locket

This is the most well-known sexual part of the woman, and it’s the easiest orgasm to achieve because it is the most easily accessed. It can easily be caressed. Women love being stimulated in this area, and men already know the path to driving their partner crazy.

  1. The vaginal orgasm

This is also another well-known one, and for some more reserved couples, it’s the only one. It’s also one of the most difficult orgasm types to achieve. Simple penetration does not stimulate the famous G spot.

In order to achieve this orgasm, you need to try hard and concentrate. Even though it’s complex, we recommend that you don’t toss it aside, because it can be extremely satisfying.

To do this you will need good communication is important with your partner. There are different positions that can stimulate this area: standing, kneeling, sitting, from behind or from the side—go until you find the perfect position.

  1. The mixed orgasm – The Winner

This is one of the most intense of all female orgasm types, and it is achieved by stimulating the clitoris along with reaching vaginal stimulation. It’s also known as a complete orgasm. Here the woman feels her entire body tremble, and is sensitive to all sensations.

There are a lot of women that don’t realize that, in addition to the G spot, the clitoris has ramifications around the vulva and inside the vagina, which is why you can stimulate both of them at the same time.

This can be achieved by stimulating both areas simultaneously. And since it’s not easily done the first few times around, you might need to do a basic body analysis. As the woman, we always recommend that you help. Try positions where you’re on top, and switch between different types of movements until finding the perfect one. Just this…you can do it!!!

4. Exercising at the gym can give you an orgasm

Running together.

According to a new study, women don’t need a man, or vibrators, or even direct sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm. The phenomenon that is female sexual pleasure can be induced by exercise.

PawiiOrgasmYou might be the type of woman that goes to the gym every day, or perhaps you climbed some steep stairs and felt a certain kind of tickle. If so, you have experienced sexual pleasure caused by exercise.

These orgasm types won’t produce in you even half of the sensations that you’ll feel in the previously mentioned ones. Some women have developed this way of feeling pleasure, making it more and more pleasurable and intense; abs, bicycling, aerobics or running. You won’t lose anything by trying it. Although, it is pretty gross to think of woman orgasming all over our local gym!!!!

In Closing…

Reaching an orgasm might not be the easiest thing in the world for women, primarily if you don’t know your own body. Get to know your body and practice, practice, practice!!!

Tuesday’s Love Jones – How Women Know You Are A Lying Wonder!


Seeing right through someones cheating ways these days are easy…mainly because we now have text message proof and online proof leaving electronic trals all over the place. We no longer have to go by the typical signs such as: weight loss, new wardrobe or sudden reasons why “working late” is happening.

How we KNOW you is LYING!

Talking Different: When they use expressions they have never used before is a sign of perhaps spending time a lot with someone else.

Proclaims Honesty Repeatedly: To sell us on the integrity of their answers, liars oftenbreak-up2 use phrases emphasizing the validity of their statements, like “to tell the truth” and “to be perfectly honest.” These verbal tip-offs frequently invoke religion. Think of expressions like “I swear on a stack of Bibles” and “as God is my witness.” Most truthful people don’t need to go that far.

So Defensiveness: If you habitually disbelieve someone, they may habitually feel defensive when you ask them about stuff. But if they seem overly reactive and you haven’t been aggressively interrogating them or obviously disbelieving, then that might indicate they are stressed because they are lying and may be using emotional distraction via a smokescreen to veer conversation away from the lying onto how awful you are.

Acting Like Non-Self: Experts believe changes in a person’s baseline personality can show something is off.  How a person generally conducts themselves are worthy of your attention. You should weigh rate of speech, tone of voice, posture, and hand gestures against what you know, along with the context of the situation.

RePostMonday - How Good is Your Liar Detection?In Closing: A woman’s intuition is clad steal, but the signs above will solidify our gut feelings. When patterns of our spouses change, so does the way we feel about them. NO ONE wants to be taken for a fool and NO ONE wants to be deliberately lied to in a relationship.

When lies creep into a relationship, the other person is not liberated to be who they really are. Instead, the other person become more like a local investigator, untrusting and this most likely will soon effect sex in the relationship.

If you are the liar in the relationship or the person with the gut feelings, I urge you both to evaluate what it is you want out of life…by this I mean “stop playing games” and move on to what it is you know you deserve in a relationship.